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Have you seen the data on women’s mental and emotional health lately? 

It ain’t good.

 

Women everywhere are feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and destabilized. With events like the overturning of Roe v. Wade, we’re watching our hard-won rights get stripped away, with women of color, poor women, and disabled women bearing the worst of the impact.

In hard moments like this, women often turn that anxiety on ourselves in the form of The Voice — an awful internal monologue that floods our brains with all the ways we’re failing, and falling short.

You might wonder if you’ll be stuck with The Voice in your head forever, the one that whispers you’re never smart / attractive / grateful / accomplished enough, that you don’t deserve the things you want, or that everyone is probably mad at you. 

But, now you’re here, I want to share a secret with you:

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There’s a way to go from anxious and overwhelmed, to taking full control of The Voice in your head — even in the worst of times. 

It all starts by learning to change your thoughts, and the way they make you feel.

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The last 100 years of progress haven’t magically fixed centuries of patriarchal conditioning in women’s minds.

We’re still taught by the societies we live in that a woman’s true value is measured by what she can do for others, and whether they approve of her appearance, intelligence, parenting skills, and so on.

And even when we know it’s nonsense… we still struggle.

If you have other marginalized identities — if you’re a woman of color, or fat, or neurodivergent, or LGBTQIA+ — it can feel even more impossible to fulfill all the contradictory versions of a woman you’re “supposed” to be.

I call the fear of not living up to these patriarchal conditions “socially-programmed anxiety”.

And that’s what causes The Voice.

Because it produces a painful gap between what you want to think and believe about yourself, and how the society you live in is making you feel.

The tools women are offered to deal with this anxiety (like positive thinking, journaling, affirmations, etc.) are woefully inadequate. 

Which is probably why…

… You intellectually understand that a guy you met off Tinder last week shouldn’t be in charge of your self-esteem, but you’re still checking your phone 37 times a day for a text back.

… You’d tell your friend who yelled at her kids that no one is a perfect parent (and mean it), but if you so much as snap at your kids you feel guilty and ashamed the minute the anger wears off.

… You want to love your body and be nicer to yourself, but still feel vaguely ashamed when you eat dessert two nights in a row, and worry about getting wrinkles.

The Feminist Self-Help Society

Until our thoughts are set free from patriarchal conditioning, women can never truly — fully — thrive.

Instead, we’ll keep living the life society tells us to live, chasing the approval society tells us to care about, and wondering why we’re still so stressed and unhappy.

But if you’re ready, all that ends here. 

 

If you’re ready to …

… stop feeling anxious all the time,

stop beating yourself up, and

stop trying to spackle over your negative thoughts 
with “positive thinking” that doesn’t work …

… then you’ve come to the right place.

 
 

 

Join us inside

The Feminist Self-Help Society. 

The patriarchy wont be changing any time soon. But your thoughts, your brain, and the way you live your life can

Our approach is science-backed, intersectional, and a set of tools you can use any time, anywhere for the rest of your life. 

It all starts by clicking the button below. Let’s do this!

 

Enroll by March 21st and get instant access to your complimentary bonus course: Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem, and Self-Love!

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In this community I found the peace I had been searching for my whole life.

 

THE SOCIETY HAS BEEN THE ULTIMATE BEFORE AND AFTER IN MY LIFE, AND BECAUSE OF IT I FEEL EQUIPPED FOR WHATEVER LIES AHEAD.
Since joining The Society I have:
  • Doubled my salary
  • Found a job I truly love
  • Become my own best friend
  • Earned my master’s degree
  • Had my first romantic relationship
  • Completed two impossible goals
  • Run four 5ks, including my first 5k
  • Healed my platonic anxious attachment
  • Made enormous progress on my romantic anxious attachment
  • Stopped linking my self-worth and productivity
  • Learned to accept all of my emotions

 

ALL OF THESE CHANGES IN CIRCUMSTANCES pale in comparison to how different I feel as a person. You could transport me back to my life when I joined and my thoughts about it would be entirely different.

Thank you to Kara for the absolute magic you have bottled here for us. You have truly helped me become the person 
I have always wanted to be. I will be grateful for the rest of my life.

— Sarah
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I feel different, lighter. I know I have options in how I think, 
and even with difficult thoughts that I’m still picking apart. Because I’ve had changes happen already, there’s this whiff of possibility in the air. I had been diagnosed with severe anxiety a few years ago but it feels much more manageable now.

—Jenni
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SOCIETY TAUGHT YOU HOW TO THINK NEGATIVE THOUGHTS ABOUT YOURSELF.

The Feminist Self-Help Society is going to teach you how to think in a different way — one that you choose for yourself.

That means …

You can show up at work as your competent, confident, bad-ass self.


You can produce great results, take risks, and handle it when things don’t go as planned. You know your worth, you advocate for it, and you knock your role out of the park. And when you go home at night, your work brain turns off just like your office light.

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I WAS PRETTY MUCH AT BREAKING POINT WITH MY ANXIETY WHEN I JOINED. Now I’m not and I didn’t even have to quit my job to do it which seems like a miracle from where I was last year. I don’t live every waking minute terrified about what my boss is thinking and I’m actually okay with him thinking negative thoughts about me.

– Anne 
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WOWZA HAVE I SEEN SOME CHANGES FROM DOING THIS WORK, but most especially when it comes to dating and relationships. The person I’m dating now has all of the qualities I want in a partner. It’s a wildly different experience of dating like nothing I’ve ever done.

– Devon 

You don’t give dates who ghost you a second thought.

 

You love your single life, you enjoy dating, and when you’re ready to settle down you know how to find the right partner for you without all the drama and dismay.

 

Mom guilt? 
You’re over it.

 

You’re way more patient with your kids in the first place, but if you do occasionally get short with them you know how to get back on track and make amends without the spiral. 

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THE TOOLS I’VE LEARNED HAVE RADICALLY AFFECTED MY PARENTING. I am so much less attached to my kids’ outcomes. They can be mad, they can be sad, they can fuss, and cry, and I can still feel like I’m doing just fine. I’m so much less anxious and stressed as a parent.

– Bethany
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MY BODY IMAGE WENT FROM DISORDERED EATING AND NEVER LOOKING IN THE MIRROR to loving my butt and thighs and not thinking about what I eat outside of enjoying it. I can actually rest and take time off without shaming myself the whole time, and I’ve freed up so much brain energy that I’m now launching a business and holding down a full-time biotech job at the same time, which I would never have thought I was capable of.

– Devon 

Ice cream two days in a row? That’s just a great weekend.



Your self-esteem doesn’t soar and dive based on what you ate that day or if your pants are tight, and you’re able to go through life with your body as your friend, not your frenemy.

Thought work works. And the science proves it.

My methods — including the same content and coaching that’s inside the Society — were part of a double-blind clinical study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association Network Open that showed coaching had a better outcome on measures of burnout, imposter syndrome, self-compassion, and flourishing than almost any other intervention that had been studied in some of the same populations.

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU JOIN:

1. FIRST THINGS FIRST: YOU’LL DIVE INTO THE FEMINIST MINDSET FIX.

This foundational course, which starts as soon as you join, teaches you the ground-breaking tools you’ll need to identify the thoughts creating socially-programmed anxiety and how to change them. You’ll literally learn how to train your brain to think better thoughts.

 

2. AFTER THAT YOU’LL BE ABLE TO UNLOCK A NEW COURSE EVERY MONTH, TAKING A DEEP DIVE INTO WHATEVER AREA OF YOUR LIFE IS FEELING CHALLENGING.

Sex and romantic relationships, work and time management, money mindset, nervous system activation, body image, eating and exercise habits, social relationships, and much more — whatever is not working in your life, we’ve got a course to solve it.

You may have tried to work on these areas before, and may have made some progress. But if the tools you were using weren’t designed to address the Brain Gap, then there’s still going to be a gap between the life you want and the one you’re experiencing now

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3. ALONG THE WAY YOU’LL HAVE ACCESS TO COACHING AND SUPPORT WHENEVER YOU NEED IT.

Live coaching calls, access to written coaching 24/7, a vast library of advice you can search whenever you want, and an empowering supportive community.

We also offer coaching calls specific to our members who are Black, Indigenous, or people of color. 

 

 

4. WHEN YOU FEEL YOUR JOURNEY IS COMPLETE, YOU CAN CHOOSE TO GRADUATE YOURSELF.

Some students stay a few months, some stay a few years. It’s all up to you and your journey, and we’re there with you every step of the way.

WHAT'S INSIDE THE SOCIETY:

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The Feminist Mindset Fix

A month-long foundations course that teaches you cognitive-change tools you’ll use for the rest of your life. This is how you start to rewire your brain to heal from socially-programmed anxiety for good.

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Signature Courses

With a feminist cognitive-based approach to improving every area of your life, including work stress, money, friendships, family, relationships, time management, sex, dating, trauma, the nervous system, and more. 

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Ask the Coaches

A 24/7 anonymous written coaching forum where you can submit whatever’s troubling you and get expert advice from one of my Feminist Self-Help Society Coaches, guaranteed. 

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The Library

An enormous vault of searchable coaching advice so that you can get help with any problem immediately — in both written and audio resources for all learning styles.

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Live Coaching Calls

Watch thought-change work happen in real time. Monthly calls with me, weekly calls with the FSS Coaches, plus extra BIPOC-only calls lead by Certified Feminist Coaches of Color. 

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Facebook Group

Optional for those who enjoy social media communities, full of smart courageous women who love to help each other out with coaching questions, thought change tactics, and new beliefs.

Your investment: $97 a month.

 

When I taught this work in a high-end group it was $10,000 for six months.

 

But I want the feminist mindset revolution to be accessible to everyone.

 

So now you can change your life for the cost of dinner out for two in the city, or a Target shopping 
spree you didn’t really need.

 

There’s no minimum commitment or maximum stay. You learn what you need, then graduate yourself any time.

Enroll by March 21st and get instant access to your complimentary bonus course: Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem, and Self-Love.

Hello! Please come in, because school is in session — and I’m your teacher.

 

I’M KARA LOEWENTHEIL, founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and creator of The Feminist Self-Help Society. I’m the host of the internationally top-ranked podcast UnF*ck Your Brain, and the author of the forthcoming book “Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head — and How to Get It Out (Penguin 2024).

 

My work has been featured in publications like Glamour and The New York Times, and praised on podcasts as varied as “My Favorite Murder” to “We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle.”

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The Feminist Self-Help Society
Generations of women have lived unfulfilling, repressed, stunted lives 
because that’s all society taught them or allowed them to do.

BUT WE HAVE A CHANCE TO DO IT DIFFERENTLY.


The Society will teach you how.


You just have to be willing to turn the page and begin.

Enroll by March 21st and get instant access to your complimentary bonus course: Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem, and Self-Love.

Raise your hand if you’ve got a question! Yes, you there. Go ahead. 

That depends on who you are. And how we define “expensive.” 

I define expensive not by how much money I invest in something, but by what I am getting for my investment. 

After all, $100,000 would be very expensive for a car (in my opinion) but an incredible steal on a two-bedroom apartment in New York City. 

Many of us spend $97 a month on getting fillers or dying our hair, buying skincare or makeup, or drinking/drugs/shopping to numb out from all the negative emotions we don’t know how to handle. 

I’m not here to shame you for any of that. I do some of these things myself – I own more red lipsticks than anyone could say are strictly necessary. 

But when we spend our money in these ways, the return is just … more of the same. We spend money on fillers and then we feel like we have to keep doing it to feel ok about how we look. We spend money on drinking our feelings away, and then we feel bad about that, and we have to spend more money on drinking those feelings away too. 

Investing in our own mental and emotional health and happiness is not spending money on something that disappears once used. 

It’s investing in a resource that gets more and more valuable in our lives each time we do.

You can keep getting the filler or not, but your self-esteem won’t depend on it anymore. That’s what freedom feels like. 

Hiring a 1:1 coach for a session once-a-week can easily cost thousands of dollars a month, and that doesn’t come with unlimited coaching, a library of high-level coaching courses, a database of coaching answers to search anytime, a supportive community, and everything else included in The Society.

So when it comes to investing in our mental and emotional health and happiness, in creating freedom as women in a society that tries to keep us constrained, The Society is a steal.

After two months in The Society, you’ll start noticing that you just feel … a bit more chill.

Your emotions aren’t so much of a rollercoaster. You’re getting more done and starting to feel more confident about your abilities and your worth. You’re a little nicer to yourself. You’re spending less time scrolling Instagram feeling bad about yourself, and more time blowing your own mind with thought work in the The Society.

After four months in The Society, you’ll realize it’s been a while since you took sh*t personally.

Suddenly, without quite knowing how it happened, you just feel less judgmental of yourself and everyone around you. You won’t get freaked out when something unexpected happens, because you know you can handle it. You catch your reflection in the mirror and surprise yourself by thinking “damn girl, looking good!” You have more patience with yourself and those around you.

After six months in The Society, your brain starts coaching itself.

You’re naturally and effortlessly thinking more positive, productive, and helpful thoughts, and when you look back at your thoughts from month one, you don’t even recognize some of them anymore. You show up at work as the bad-ass you always knew you could be. You show up in your personal life as the magnetic, loving, and happy woman you always wanted to be. And most importantly you’re excited for the future, because you are so proud of the work you’ve already done that you can’t wait to find out where managing your mind and The Society are going to take you next!

And after that? The sky is the limit. And the one thing you know for sure is that The Society will be there to help you get wherever you want to go.

This is such a common question — and please don’t take this personally, but I think it’s the wrong question to ask. Women are socialized to think that they only deserve things they NEED and also that they NEED to make the right decision all the time. So we’re always trying to figure out if we “need” something to justify a decision.

But it’s not about what you need. It’s about what you WANT.

  • Do you WANT to feel less anxious?
  • Do you WANT to feel more empowered and confident?
  • Do you WANT to have absolute faith in your ability to create ANY outcome you want in your life?

If those are things you want, then that’s what matters. And that’s what The Society will provide.

This is a very normal fear! We’ve all been there.

First, there’s literally no such thing as doing everything or completing it all.

When you go to college you aren’t trying to take ALL the courses, are you? No. You take the ones relevant to your interests, and when you are fully educated in that you graduate. The Society is the same.

More importantly, The Society is designed differently, because I created it in such a way that it can make a big difference in your life even with very little time spent on it. You can spend 5 minutes a day or 5 hours a week, and you’ll see results.

I’m going to let one of The Society’s members tell you how big of a difference The Society can make even when don’t have a lot of time or aren’t the joining type.

KELLY M:

I don’t get on the website often, and I don’t participate in coaching. I read others’ posts. I listen to the weekly podcast. That’s. It. 

So let me tell you all what happened yesterday. I got walked down to HR and was told they were eliminating my position. They offered me an 8-week severance and made me turn in my badge on the spot. I have a family with two small girls. I provide the majority of our income. 

Let me tell you what also happened yesterday. I didn’t lose my shit. I stood up for myself in that meeting and told them how much of a mistake they are making. I had my own back. I never cried. I came out of there feeling empowered, confident and resourceful. I have never once felt like a victim. They are the ones who lost and this is an opportunity for me to find and work for a company who values their employees, patient quality and patient care. 

You don’t have to be a star student in this group to see the effects. Two years ago I would have been crippled with devastation and doom. I would have lived as a victim and not helped myself. I would have had a lack of confidence and felt like an imposter. 

Not yesterday!

It’s up to you. We have folks who stay for three months, folks who stay for a year, and folks who have been in The Society since the beginning several years ago. 

Your first month starts the day you join. After that you’ll be billed monthly. You can cancel at any time, whenever you want to graduate yourself from The Society and feel ready to handle life’s challenges on your own!

Absolutely not. Therapy and The Society work beautifully together. In fact, we have members in The Society who were referred to us by their therapists, because therapists are not trained in socially-programmed anxiety and feminist thought tools! No matter what kind of mental health treatment you are receiving, learning how to close the Brain Gap and resolve your socially-programmed anxiety is going to make your therapy more impactful and help your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors change more quickly.

I’m going to let one of our FSS members take the mic to answer this one. 

I just want to say that this stuff really works.

I just started a job in an industry I used to work in but stopped before I joined FSS. I’m sitting here in awe of my own brain. 

I used to be SOOO stressed out and anxious and overwhelmed in this industry and completely burned myself out. 

Now I’m calmly setting boundaries, organizing tasks, offering encouragement to coworkers, saying ” no,” and thinking thoughts that are just MAGICAL compared to how I used to exist in this space.It’s surreal.

I literally feel like I’m going through life with a different software system. My brain is noticeably different.

– Sunny 

Nope! We have members all over the world, and we try to vary the times of our live offerings to make them accessible to different time zones. Plus all coaching calls and other live offerings are recorded and replays are available on demand so you can fit us into your schedule wherever you are. 

We also have members of all different ages, from their late teens into their 70s. It’s never too early or too late to start this work.

And we welcome anyone who was or is socialized as a woman, whatever your gender or current gender expression.

That’s not a problem. There’s no loyalty oath in The Society — our whole mission is to teach you how to think for yourself and believe what you truly want to believe! We’ve got members who are ardent feminists, members who are sure they don’t want to call themselves feminists, and members who aren’t sure what they think about it. The Society is not a good fit for you if you believe that women are an inferior gender and should not have equal rights. But other than that, you’re good. 

The podcast is an amazing resource, but it was created one episode at a time over many years, so it’s more like a series of advice columns on a million different topics in no particular order. And when you listen to a podcast you can’t ask a question, get feedback on your attempts to implement what you learn, or get coaching when you’re stuck. The Society not only has teaching and tools that aren’t on the podcast, but it is streamlined and organized. The courses have been put together to focus on specific topics with Kara’s most cutting-edge concepts and tools for those topics. In The Society we’ve got everything you need, including content not on the podcast, and it’s perfectly streamlined and organized for fast, maximum change. Plus you have access to the coaching support you need to keep you moving in the right direction and using everything correctly!

IF TODAY WAS YOUR LAST DAY ON EARTH, WOULD YOU FEEL SURE THAT YOU HAD FULFILLED YOUR POTENTIAL?


Would you know you had done the things you wanted to do, told the truths you wanted to tell, and been the person you wanted to be?

I’M NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO HAS USED THESE TOOLS TO CHANGE MY LIFE.


Here’s just one sample story from a society student.
imagine your life with…

 

A BRAIN THAT’S ACTUALLY WORKING FOR YOU, RATHER THAN AGAINST YOU.

 

And a life you’ve chosen for yourself, on your own terms.

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Socially-programmed anxiety? It’s gone for good.

Which means better sleep, less stress, more focus, and a lot more mental and emotional energy for the rest of your life.


You don’t just believe empowering ideas in the abstract, you actually feel empowered every day. 

Which means you set that boundary, you go for that dream job, you dump that lackluster partner and find an awesome one, you kick ass at your creative pursuit.


You give many fewer fucks about what society has told you you have to do and who society has told you you have to be. 

Which means actually living your life the way you want to live it. Maybe you quit your job and move to the French Riviera to raise prize chihuahuas. Or maybe you’re living in the same house in the same suburb with the same family you were before, but everything feels different inside.

But when you close the Brain Gap? When you cure socially-programmed anxiety? That’s when things really begin to change.  Don’t just take my word for it.

 

My work — including the same content and coaching that’s inside the Society — was part of a double-blind clinical study published in The Journal of the American Medical Association that showed coaching had a better outcome on measures of burnout, imposter syndrome, self-compassion and flourishing than almost any other intervention that had been studied in some of the same populations.

 

So, What does that mean for you?

Learn to cure your socially-programmed anxiety so that you can do…

WHATEVER YOU FUCKING WANT.

We will teach you how to:

Get society’s expectations out of your head.
Decide what kind of life you really want to live.
Make it happen, and enjoy the ride.

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Not to get morbid but…

 

This is technically a  matter of life & death. After all — we all die someday. 
That’s how high the stakes of this work are. I don’t want you on your deathbed however many years from now, wishing you’d been kinder to yourself, hadn’t worked so hard, and had lived your life for YOU. That’s not far-fetched, because the research is pretty clear: those are some of the main regrets that people express when they are close to death.

 

So we know what we need to do now to avoid ending up feeling the same way: We have to make those changes.

 

That’s why I call feminist coaching “practical philosophy.” It’s a way of having the conversation we all should engage in with ourselves about what creates a good life, where we’re trying to go, and who we truly want to be.

 

It’s about living your life with bold intention, so that you won’t regret it when 
you die.

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I love being part of a global community of people who are all here to grow and learn and help each other. There isn’t really a part of my life that this work hasn’t improved. But the most important thing is that I feel like I’m actively living my life instead of just surviving it. It’s HUGE. It’s EVERYTHING.

—Emma
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