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Did I rinse out Katie’s lunch box like I meant to? I know I didn’t do that last load of laundry this house is such a fucking mess.
I’m so unprepared for that meeting at lunch today. I’m going to look like an idiot. What if I get fired?
I can’t believe I hit snooze, I was supposed to go to the gym this morning. I’m going to die of heart disease and it will be my fault.
What time did Ryan go to bed? Why don’t we go to bed at the same time? We’ve lost the magic, we don’t have enough sex, he/she’s probably unhappy with me, what if they don’t love me anymore.
Your brain has got another 16 hours of tape ready to roll. It won’t stop spinning until you go to sleep again – if you can even fall asleep with all of that chatter in your mind.
To everyone else, it looks like you’ve got it all handled. You’re managing everything. Maybe a small stumble here or there, but on the whole, people marvel at how much you manage.
But on the inside, you feel like you’re on a high-wire act. Sure, things may look under control, but one wrong step and it feels like you’ll tumble all the way down.
You’re not only responsible for doing your job perfectly, you’re also responsible for making sure everyone else can do their jobs perfectly and being responsive 24/7 to anyone who needs you.
You’re not only responsible for your side of a healthy communicative loving relationship, but you’re responsible for acting exactly the right way to make your partner show up perfectly too, and if they don’t, you probably did something wrong.
You’re not only responsible for parenting, you’re responsible for every thought, feeling, and decision your child ever makes and it’s your job to ensure they are happy forever and nothing bad ever happens to them even after you’re gone.
You’re not only responsible for your own life, you’re also responsible for climate change, world peace, and eradicating hunger across the globe – or at least, even if you intellectually know you can’t do all that single-handedly, you still feel guilty and ashamed for not having done enough to help.
(I mean, I’m working on that! But I’d also like to help you feel better in the meantime.)
This workshop combines evolutionary biology, cognitive psychology, and cultural perspectives to teach you how to understand what’s going on in your brain when that anxious spin starts up…and how you can learn to stop the spin for good.
:: How social pressures hijack your brain’s survival system and cause stress.
:: How to identify when and where over-responsibility is creating anxiety for you.
:: The simple antidote to over-responsibility and how using it can reduce your anxiety, increase your confidence, and increase your joy. (Seriously.)
That’s because a lot of coaches are just teaching what they learned from someone else. And there’s no shame in that, we need all the teachers we can get!
But I created the frameworks I teach. I built and developed the feminist mindset coaching model. In other words, I’m the one most of those other coaches learned what they are teaching from (quite literally!).
The author of the New York Times & USA Today #1 Bestseller Take Back Your Brain, host of the internationally top-ranked podcast UnF*ck Your Brain, and founder of The School of New Feminist Thought.
Today I’m the leading feminist mindset coach in the world, but I didn’t start out that way. I started out as a stressed-out double-Ivy League grad (Yale College, Harvard Law) who kept achieving my way to the top of my field but felt besieged with anxiety about my job performance, dating life, family relationships, friendships, and self-worth.
But nothing solved my problem because my anxiety was caused by over-responsibility. When I figured that out, I figured out how to solve it. Now I am a NYT-bestselling author, run a multiple-seven-figure business, am married to my perfect-for-me partner, have thriving friendships, health family boundaries, and most importantly, a great relationship with myself. It wasn’t magic. It was changing my thoughts. No gate-keeping here; now I make it my life’s mission to teach it to other women too.
I vividly remember what it was like to live every day filled with anxiety, shame, and dread.
To always feel like I was falling behind, failing to be perfect, and not living up to my potential.
To never feel like I had done enough, was good enough, or deserved to rest.
I wanted more from life than that.
And I want more for you too.
