You try wearing a new style to work, and then you spend the rest of the day worrying about whether your colleagues think you’re trying too hard.
You propose a new idea in a meeting, and then watch everyone’s faces anxiously to see if they think you sounded dumb.
You’re sure that everyone at the family wedding thinks you’re pathetic for being single — or you bring a date, and then you’re sure everyone will judge you because they’re a musician who waits tables to make rent, and all of your cousins are married to doctors.
You say you don’t want to attend that baby shower out of state or that late birthday dinner across town, and then you worry that your friends are mad and think you’re selfish.
You leave work a little early to get to the school recital a little late and you worry that your boss is mad AND that the rest of the parents are looking down on you for tardiness.
(If your mom still thinks you should go to graduate school and your best friend wants you to start an art commune with her — you can’t do both, at least not at one time.)
The bad news is that making everyone happy and controlling what they think about you is literally impossible to accomplish and you will die trying! Sorry, but it’s true.
When: Friday, June 6 from 12:00–2:00 p.m. ET
Cost: FREE. (Yes, for real. It’s free.)
(A limited-time replay will be available if you can’t attend live.)
— Daniela
I’m Kara Loewentheil. Apart from being an Ivy League-educated Master Certified Coach and the author of the New York Times-bestselling book “Take Back Your Brain,” I’m also a former could-be-certified-in-worrying-about-other-people’s-opinions-if-that-was-a-thing.
I spent literal decades holding myself back based on my fears about other people’s opinions.
I stayed in a career I didn’t love because it was prestigious and I thought my parents and colleagues would think I was nuts if I left it.
I stayed in dead-end relationships because I worried that people would judge me if I were single — though I also worried they judged me based on my partners.
I wasted thousands of hours of my life on diets and calorie counting and binging and purging because I was so worried about what other people thought about my body and my weight.
I worried about what people were thinking about what I wore, how my hair looked, what I ate, what I didn’t eat, how I sat in chairs, what I said in meetings, what I didn’t say, how much money I made or didn’t make, what my friends said or did, who my family was, whether I had kids or not, what I read, what I listened to, what I watched — the list was truly endless.
It was all-consuming, and I did not grow out of it.
It didn’t get better when I got older.
It didn’t get better when I got more successful.
It didn’t get better when I hit my life milestones.
It only got better when I learned how to change it on purpose.
Kara’s business/services and what she brings are like nothing I’ve ever seen. She is real, funny, and has been doing thought work long enough to really easily coach others and make such a great impact. The work you all do is so refreshing, empowering, and more I don’t have time to explain. Thank you!!!
– Lyndsey
I loved watching Kara coach. It’s magical! Her coaching is a blend of compassion and tough love and straightforward logic that makes you laugh, cry, and want to go forth and be unstoppable. I left the event feeling energized, just by working on my own thoughts throughout the day based on Kara’s coaching of others.
– Jenna
I knew that this event would be great, but it exceeded all my expectations. The coaching was really powerful: seeing Kara cut through all the different kinds of BS that our brains come up with is so helpful, and I know that I will get something different out of it every time I go back to watch it again.
– Bessie