Today’s the day. Let’s do this.
Hey Society alumni!
Don’t forget: there’s no need to re-take The Feminist Mindset Fix when you return. You can re-join, and jump straight into the course of your choice.
Here’s the thing: It’s normal for old patterns to re-emerge or for new challenges to come up.
You know your performance at work or in your business is worthy of praise (and more money) — but any time you think about asking for a raise, or making a career pivot, your brain is very certain you shouldn’t, because you’ll never find anything better.
You want something different — for your partnership, your parenting, your creative life, or your internal world, but when you try to “dream big,” your brain throws 1000+ reasons at you why you can’t, won’t, or shouldn’t.
You tell yourself you deserve to love your body and take exquisite care of yourself, but that doesn’t stop you from picking apart your flaws in the mirror, and treating self-care as something too indulgent when you’re this busy!
There’s no such thing as going backwards with thought work. It’s all part of the journey.
But if you’ve hit difficult new terrain, or your bike (by which I mean your brain!) is feeling wobbly, it’s time for a tune-up.
Because even as a high achiever, with plenty of accolades to your name — your subconscious has internalized that it’s safer to shrink (relatively speaking). To self-edit. To doubt yourself just enough to stay in everyone’s good graces.
It’s a totally predictable result of being a woman with a brain living in this society.
However, as you may already know …
… That gap is created by how society taught us to think, it can’t be closed with more achievements, trying harder, or just “doing better.”
And when you do?
Suddenly, the big changes, projects, and goals you’ve been procrastinating on for years don’t just look possible — they start getting done.
Your fire comes back, and the big steps you’ve been avoiding start to feel exciting, exhilarating, and doable.
And your world starts to open up with possibilities.
With our library of courses and tools, and range of hands-on coaching support included in your membership, we’ll help you get back to transforming your mindset at the neural level, with an approach grounded in cognitive science and feminist theory, to help you:
:: Go after that promotion with confidence and focus — and walk into the negotiation meeting without fear, and without apology.
:: Manage your time effectively — so you get more done in less time, and actually know how to relax and enjoy your time off (without that fear of unread emails or that urge to check Slack).
:: Create beautifully authentic relationships and set boundaries without over-explaining, people-pleasing, or fear of conflict.
:: And create anything else you want with clarity and conviction, while actually liking yourself in the process.
3.5 months ago I joined The Society. In that time I have developed incredible depth with my self-compassion and began healing some deep childhood wounds …
I can look myself in the eye with genuine love and feel proud of everything I am doing — even the imperfect.. I am learning to embrace both the sun pouring in and the discomfort of stretching and pressing outward.
Thank you for this beautiful space to learn and grow. And thank you past me for believing I was worth it. Turns out it was a sure bet, even though we didn’t know it yet
With a feminist cognitive-based approach to improving every area of your life, including work stress, money, friendships, family, relationships, time management, sex, dating, trauma, the nervous system, and more.
Unlimited personal coaching (from a real human coach, certified in feminist coaching!) on whatever’s troubling you. Opportunities for live coaching, written coaching, and all-format accessibility for coaching calls (audio, video, and written transcripts).
Optional for those who enjoy social media communities, full of smart courageous women who love to help each other out with coaching questions, thought change tactics, and new beliefs, you’ll love our private Facebook group.
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Feel a little stuck and scattered, and want someone who gets it to help you sort through the mental clutter?Then you’ll love:
In this 20-minute session, one of our highly-trained coaches will help you cut through the noise in your brain to pinpoint the exact confidence gap that’s been holding you back, and help you come up with a new set of thoughts customized for your brain.
Struggle to confidently trust your gut, or know what you really want? Then this one’s for you:
This tool is a holy grail if you struggle with anxiety, overwhelm, and confusion when you try to make a decision. It gives you a brand new framework for making decisions and hard calls easy.
Want to jumpstart your self-coaching with tried and true new thoughts to test out Then check out:
This is my personal 30+ page compendium of new thoughts you can try on, borrow, or steal — built over my 10 years of self-coaching and thought work practice, and categorized by every area of your life.
Is people-pleasing your biggest confidence-killer? Then we’ve got your back:
Inside, you’ll find two of my most powerful audio lessons: “How to Stop People-Pleasing” and “The Root of People-Pleasing: Anxiety,” that will teach you how to solve your people-pleasing tendencies at the source.
Struggle to confidently set boundaries, say no, or ask for what you want? Then this is your plug-and-play solution:
Tend to get tongue-tied and stressed out when it’s time to draw a line in the sand?
The Stop People-Pleasing Script Set is exactly what you need, and includes scripts for:
Do you constantly overthink, or worry that you’re “too sensitive”? Then get your hands on …
‘No, you’re not “too much” or “too sensitive” — and those thoughts are sneakily crushing your confidence!
These reframes will help you change the way you approach these thoughts, calm yourself down, and help you make choices from a more confident place.
Since joining The Society, I have:
Doubled my salary
Found a job I truly love
Become my own best friend
Earned my master’s degree
Had my first romantic relationship
Completed two impossible goals
Run four 5ks, including my first 5k
Healed my platonic anxious attachment
Made enormous progress on my romantic anxious attachment
Stopped linking my self-worth and productivity
Learned to accept all of my emotions
All of these changes in circumstances pale in comparison to how different I feel as a person.
Thank you to Kara for the absolute magic you have bottled here for us.”
There’s no minimum commitment or maximum stay.
You learn what you need, then graduate yourself any time.
Hey Society alumni!
Don’t forget: there’s no need to re-take The Feminist Mindset Fix when you come back. You can jump right into a course of your choice, and hit the ground running.
You’re no longer required to take the Feminist Mindset Fix course, but you’re welcome to jump in if you like!
As an alum, you’ll be able to jump into a course of your choosing as soon as you enroll, depending on what area of your life you want to work on next.
From live coaching calls with myself and the Society Coaches, access to written coaching 24/7, a private monthly call for our members who are Black, Indigenous, or people of color, we’ve got you covered.
And if you like to binge-learn? We’ve got a library of past coaching available for you to peruse as well.
I’M KARA LOEWENTHEIL, founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and creator of The Feminist Self-Help Society. I’m the host of the internationally top-ranked podcast, “UnF*ck Your Brain,” and the NYT-bestselling author of “Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head — and How to Get It Out” (Penguin 2024).
My work has been featured in publications like Glamour and The New York Times, and praised on podcasts as varied as “My Favorite Murder” to “We Can Do Hard Things” with Glennon Doyle.”
But most relevant to you, I’m an example of what happens when you start prioritizing confidence as a skill you can build.
I quit my job running a think tank at Columbia Law School to become a life coach, horrifying everyone who knew me because I had faith I could make it work — and now I’ve helped women all over the world.
I quit caring what other people thought of my body and learned to love it — which allowed me to get out of dead-end dating and find and marry the perfectly imperfect man I love.
I quit worrying about what my non-profit and social justice friends and colleagues thought of me — which allowed me to build a business with no experience or outside investment that has now created $25,000,000 of revenue.
So let’s just say I know a thing or two about the kind of authentic confidence that helps you win on your own terms! a
My work was recently part of a double-blind clinical study published in Journal of the American Medical Association Network Open.
It showed coaching had a better outcome on measures of burnout, imposter syndrome, self-compassion, and flourishing than almost any other intervention that had been studied in some of the same populations.
Win: I got a lot of great coaching over the past many months about raising my teaching rates. Last month I finally decided to do it despite still feeling all the uncomfortable feelings.
As of today, all students’ parents have all paid the new rate and no one questioned or complained, even though I was fully prepared to defend my decision if needed.
My mind is blown, once again, because the drama was all my thoughts. Like Kara has said, I was leaving money on the table because of my unwillingness to feel discomfort!
My work was recently part of a double-blind clinical study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association Network Open.
(Yep, what the researchers studied included the same content and coaching that’s inside The Society.)
It showed coaching had a better outcome on measures of burnout, imposter syndrome, self-compassion, and flourishing than almost any other intervention that had been studied in some of the same populations.
Wish someone could just cut through the noise and tell you what’s actually holding you back? This session is exactly that.
In 20 focused minutes with a trained coach, you’ll:
If you often wonder, “Is this what I really want?” — this bonus is here to help you reconnect with your voice.
You’ll walk away with:
If your brain loves to default to self-doubt, guilt, or “what if I screw this up?” — this collection is your new best friend.
Inside, you’ll find:
If you often say yes when you want to say no — or feel anxious just thinking about letting someone down — this course will speak right to your heart.
In two short but powerful audio lessons, you’ll learn:
If you often say yes when you want to say no — or feel anxious just thinking about letting someone down — this course will speak right to your heart.
In two short but powerful audio lessons, you’ll learn:
Overthinking every interaction? Worrying you’re being “too emotional”? You’re not alone — and you’re not broken.
These reframes offer:
Let’s go.
Hey Society alumni! There’s no need to re-take The Feminist Mindset Fix when you return. You can jump into a course of your choice.
This is your last chance to enroll in The Society in 2025 — and claim all those bonuses when you do.
Don’t wait another minute.
Hey Society alumni! There’s no need to re-take The Feminist Mindset Fix when you return. You can jump into a course of your choice.
This is such a common question — and please don’t take this personally, but I think it’s the wrong question to ask. Women are socialized to think that they only deserve things they NEED and also that they NEED to make the right decision all the time. So we’re always trying to figure out if we “need” something to justify a decision.
But it’s not about what you need. It’s about what you WANT.
If those are things you want, then that’s what matters. And that’s what The Society will provide.
Sometimes people are a little skeptical that we can really be providing such personalized high level support at that price, and I totally get it.
Given that my 1:1 coaching intensives are $25,000 and my mastermind groups are $15,000, how do I have a membership at $149 a month? How can people get as many individual coaching answers as they want when even a 1:1 coach who works on their own is likely to be $2,000 or more?
That is the beauty of a group coaching program, and the fact that I’ve been doing this for so long and we have such a rich library of content and of previous coaching — and that I have amazing coaches working with me in the program who are better at coaching new students than I am at this point!
This is called efficiencies of scale — but we couple it with the personalized attention of individual coaching responses so you get the best of both worlds at an accessible price.
Nope, you’ll notice small shifts as soon as you start this work.
After two months in The Society, you’ll start noticing that you just feel … a bit more chill.
Your emotions aren’t so much of a rollercoaster. You’re getting more done and starting to feel more confident about your abilities and your worth. You’re a little nicer to yourself. You’re spending less time scrolling Instagram feeling bad about yourself, and more time blowing your own mind with thought work in the The Society.
After four months in The Society, you’ll realize it’s been a while since you took sh*t personally.
Suddenly, without quite knowing how it happened, you just feel less judgmental of yourself and everyone around you. You won’t get freaked out when something unexpected happens, because you know you can handle it. You catch your reflection in the mirror and surprise yourself by thinking “damn girl, looking good!” You have more patience with yourself and those around you.
After six months in The Society, your brain starts coaching itself.
You’re naturally and effortlessly thinking more positive, productive, and helpful thoughts, and when you look back at your thoughts from month one, you don’t even recognize some of them anymore. You show up at work as the bad-ass you always knew you could be. You show up in your personal life as the magnetic, loving, and happy woman you always wanted to be. And most importantly you’re excited for the future, because you are so proud of the work you’ve already done that you can’t wait to find out where managing your mind and The Society are going to take you next!
And after that? The sky is the limit. And the one thing you know for sure is that The Society will be there to help you get wherever you want to go.
This is a very normal fear! We’ve all been there.
First, there’s literally no such thing as doing everything or completing it all.
When you go to college you aren’t trying to take ALL the courses, are you? No. You take the ones relevant to your interests, and when you are fully educated in that you graduate. The Society is the same.
More importantly, The Society is designed differently, because I created it in such a way that it can make a big difference in your life even with very little time spent on it. You can spend 5 minutes a day or 5 hours a week, and you’ll see results.
I’m going to let one of The Society’s members tell you how big of a difference The Society can make even when don’t have a lot of time or aren’t the joining type.
I don’t get on the website often, and I don’t participate in coaching. I read others’ posts. I listen to the weekly podcast. That’s. It.
So let me tell you all what happened yesterday. I got walked down to HR and was told they were eliminating my position. They offered me an 8-week severance and made me turn in my badge on the spot. I have a family with two small girls. I provide the majority of our income.
Let me tell you what also happened yesterday. I didn’t lose my shit. I stood up for myself in that meeting and told them how much of a mistake they are making. I had my own back. I never cried. I came out of there feeling empowered, confident and resourceful. I have never once felt like a victim. They are the ones who lost and this is an opportunity for me to find and work for a company who values their employees, patient quality and patient care.
You don’t have to be a star student in this group to see the effects. Two years ago I would have been crippled with devastation and doom. I would have lived as a victim and not helped myself. I would have had a lack of confidence and felt like an imposter.
Not yesterday!
It’s up to you. We have folks who stay for three months, folks who stay for a year, and folks who have been in The Society since the beginning several years ago.
Your first month starts the day you join. After that you’ll be billed monthly. You can cancel at any time, whenever you want to graduate yourself from The Society and feel ready to handle life’s challenges on your own!
Absolutely not. Therapy and The Society work beautifully together. In fact, we have members in The Society who were referred to us by their therapists, because therapists are not trained in socially-programmed anxiety and feminist thought tools! No matter what kind of mental health treatment you are receiving, learning how to close the Brain Gap and resolve your socially-programmed anxiety is going to make your therapy more impactful and help your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors change more quickly.
I’m going to let one of our FSS members take the mic to answer this one.
I just want to say that this stuff really works.
I just started a job in an industry I used to work in but stopped before I joined FSS. I’m sitting here in awe of my own brain.
I used to be SOOO stressed out and anxious and overwhelmed in this industry and completely burned myself out.
Now I’m calmly setting boundaries, organizing tasks, offering encouragement to coworkers, saying ” no,” and thinking thoughts that are just MAGICAL compared to how I used to exist in this space.It’s surreal.
I literally feel like I’m going through life with a different software system. My brain is noticeably different.
Nope! We have members all over the world, and we try to vary the times of our live offerings to make them accessible to different time zones. Plus all coaching calls and other live offerings are recorded and replays are available on demand so you can fit us into your schedule wherever you are.
We also have members of all different ages, from their late teens into their 70s. It’s never too early or too late to start this work.
That’s not a problem. There’s no loyalty oath in The Society — our whole mission is to teach you how to think for yourself and believe what you truly want to believe! We’ve got members who are ardent feminists, members who are sure they don’t want to call themselves feminists, and members who aren’t sure what they think about it. The Society is not a good fit for you if you believe that women are an inferior gender and should not have equal rights. But other than that, you’re good.
The podcast is an amazing resource, but it was created one episode at a time over many years, so it’s more like a series of advice columns on a million different topics in no particular order. And when you listen to a podcast you can’t ask a question, get feedback on your attempts to implement what you learn, or get coaching when you’re stuck. The Society not only has teaching and tools that aren’t on the podcast, but it is streamlined and organized. The courses have been put together to focus on specific topics with Kara’s most cutting-edge concepts and tools for those topics. In The Society we’ve got everything you need, including content not on the podcast, and it’s perfectly streamlined and organized for fast, maximum change. Plus you have access to the coaching support you need to keep you moving in the right direction and using everything correctly!
3.5 months ago I joined The Society. In that time I have developed incredible depth with my self-compassion and began healing some deep childhood wounds …
I can look myself in the eye with genuine love and feel proud of everything I am doing — even the imperfect.. I am learning to embrace both the sun pouring in and the discomfort of stretching and pressing outward.
Thank you for this beautiful space to learn and grow. And thank you past me for believing I was worth it. Turns out it was a sure bet, even though we didn’t know it yet