WOMEN HAVE MORE ECONOMIC AND SOCIAL POWER THAN EVER.
But often it doesn’t feel that way. Often we feel anxious, insecure, exhausted, guilty, burnt out, and afraid.
But there is a way to go from feeling completely overwhelmed with self-doubt and insecurities to feeling calm, confident, and in control of your life.
It’s all inside my monthly feminist coaching program…
Have you ever wondered WHY it sometimes feels like you’re living in a split-personality brain?
Because there IS an explanation.
It's not a coincidence that:
- Most women experience imposter syndrome, anxiety, and people-pleasing.
- Women start hating their bodies before grade school is even over.
- Women negotiate less, speak up for themselves less, and generally are more likely to feel disempowered in their own lives (especially if they are women of color, fat women, alternately-abled women, or part of any other disadvantaged group).
- Women in particular are suffering from exhaustion and burnout in staggering numbers.
It’s because sexism has gotten inside your brain.
Society has taught you how to think in ways that diminish, objectify, and devalue you.
The most insidious thing about society teaching you to feel bad about yourself is that you can't even tell it's happening.
BECAUSE THE CALL IS COMING FROM INSIDE THE HOUSE.
You think the thoughts, and they seem like they are YOUR thoughts.
But they aren’t. They are messages from a poison bottle that you don’t know how to recognize or change. All of the political action in the world isn’t going to change that. And what happens?
- You don’t go after your dreams because what if you fail and what will people think?
- You hate your body, which is only ever trying to love you.
- You make less money.
- You play small.
- You stay in relationships that aren’t working for way too long.
- You care more about what other people think than what you think, even of yourself.
In short, you smother your authentic self and desires again and again and again, all to win some prize that never comes.
AND WHEN WE ARE UNFULFILLED, WHAT DO WE DO TO FEEL BETTER?
We spend money and time on sh*t that don’t help us actually feel differently in the long-run. Listen, I love a good splurge at Sephora as much as anyone else. But a new lipstick isn’t going to solve my confidence problem when that problem is caused by my thought that I’m not smart enough to be taken seriously at work. Right? Right.
That’s why investing in learning how to unf*ck my brain has always been my favorite thing to do with my money, at every level.
WELCOME TO THE CLUTCH.
The Clutch teaches you how to liberate yourself from the inside out. And that means:
- Not caring if your boss is happy with you, because you are 100% happy with yourself and you don’t need to control what other people think about you to sleep at night.
- Not caring if a Tinder date is attracted to you, because you feel so confident about your value, worth, and yes your hotness, that it doesn’t even cross your mind to feel insecure.
- Not feeling guilty as a working mom because you know you’re doing an amazing job at work and at home, and you’re able to be present and enjoy each part of your life while you’re in it.
- Not caring if other people think you are too loud, too much, too opinionated, too independent, or too bad-ass. Because you are all those things, and they are awesome.
It’s the community of women you didn’t know existed and can’t live without.
I have been in the Clutch for three years. I planned to join for one month, learn the tools and leave. I also was a person who felt like I had “tried everything” in terms of therapy/self help etc. and even the things that gave me some relief it was only temporary. I can say without a doubt the Clutch and Kara’s way of doing thought work is it for me. The work is hard, you have to be willing to go in on it, challenge yourself and also to slog out practicing thoughts you don’t yet believe. But this has changed my life. I am also still getting so much value from the Clutch, every time I think I’m done I just level up to something else.
Also – I would say I came into the Clutch thinking I needed this to “fix” myself. Now that idea feels so strange to me, which is the absolute best indication of how much I’ve changed.
We are only going to be able to create true freedom when we truly feel free.
Not just intellectually, but emotionally.
Not just in theory, but in reality too.
I KNOW THIS BECAUSE I LIVED IT.
I went to the fanciest of schools (Harvard and Yale, in fact), I marched in all the protests, I racked up every brass ring that was out there for me (hello judicial clerkship, academic fellowships, and feminist awards). And I still felt terrible.
- I pretended to be confident but I was horribly anxious at any sign that anyone might be displeased with me.
- I claimed conventional marriage was outdated but was desperate for a romantic relationship to validate me so I could just feel normal.
- I knew that the media was making me feel terrible about my body but I couldn’t stop hoping that if I just lost 20 pounds all my dreams would come true.
Eventually, in my quest to feel better (and let’s be honest, to “fix” myself because I still thought I needed fixing), I discovered life coaching. I got certified as a life coach, and then as a master coach, by the best coaching school in the world. The tools I was learning to shift my thought patterns helped, and I started to help other women with their minds.
And then I saw it. I realized that the thought patterns my clients were bringing to me weren’t isolated. They weren’t accidental. They weren’t random.
They were a product of the patriarchy. They followed specific patterns that matched how women are socialized and taught to think about themselves.
And yet every woman coming to me thought that she was different. She thought she was crazy. She thought she was alone.
What’s changed since joining the Clutch is that it feels like I’m FINALLY “making progress”. I’m FINALLY (after years of trying EVERYTHING) changing — I am changing my mind and my thoughts, which is changing how I perceive the people around me, which is changing my feelings, my actions and my entire f*cking life.
I REALIZED THAT WOMEN DESERVE MORE THAN FEEL-GOOD AFFIRMATIONS.
They need – we ALL need – concrete effective help getting negative social messages out of their brains for good.
I recreated all of my coaching tools using a feminist lens, and tested them on my own brain. They blew my mind, and my clients started breaking through to levels of confidence, self-love, and joy they had always imagined were possible for other women…but not for them.
Knowing intellectually about sexism doesn’t translate into self-acceptance or self-love. Because the women’s rights movement is a work in progress. But it’s not enough.
ENTER: THE CLUTCH.
I honestly can’t think of another mass-group where people solidly are “doing the work” in ways that never seem layered with competition, or righteousness, or unspoken judgments… It’s like a whole community of people who are the embodiment of “when you stop judging yourself, you stop judging others” kinda thing.
I can’t speak highly enough of Kara, her community, and all the chickens. It truly gives me such hope knowing the ripples growing around the world of fellow people learning how to do this stuff.
THE WORLD IS ALWAYS COMING AT YOU WITH NEW CHALLENGES.
But now you have somewhere to go. Anytime. Anywhere. For anything. And a community that has your back.
- Because you’re always going to be a woman in a society built by and for men. You’re always going to need advice, feedback and support in changing your thought patterns, navigating the world, and creating your best life.
- Because a good clutch goes with any outfit and holds all the essentials you need.
- Because clutch is exactly what you need exactly when you need it. And the Clutch is exactly what your brain needs, whenever you need it.
Because the world is always going to be trying to profit off making you feel bad about yourself.
The diet industry alone is a 68 billion dollar a year industry in the US alone. SIXTY EIGHT BILLION. Are you f*cking kidding me? What a goddamn waste of money, time, and human potential.
You can solve your confidence problem once and for all for a fraction of what you’ll spend on diet cookbooks, cleanses, and weight loss programs over the course of your life. And unlike diets, which are scientifically proven to always fail, this sh*t works.
Feminism isn’t just about being an individual. It’s about a movement.
JOIN THE CLUTCH.
WANNA KNOW ALL THE DETAILS?
Joining the Clutch gives you structure, accountability, and consistency in managing your mind — and that uplevels your whole life. Here’s how we make the magic happen:
THE FEMINIST MINDSET FIX
Discover how to use a simple and life-changing self-coaching process to deprogram the patriarchy, build new thoughts that actually serve you, and create any change you want in your life.
EXPERT TRAINING & COURSES
Each month, you'll unlock a new in-depth course of your choosing. From Friendship & Social Anxiety, to Work & Money, to Self Love & Self Acceptance, you'll pick and choose how you want to continue to rewire your brain and transform your life.
LIVE COACHING CALLS
You can participate (and get coached!) in LIVE monthly coaching calls with Kara. Our Clutch Coaches also host weekly model calls so you can be supported as you work through your thoughts and deprogram the patriarchy.
EXPERT GUIDANCE
Get coaching support when and where you need it. Pop into Ask the Clutch Coaches to post your question and a coach will reply. You can also search topics to see responses to other chickens who may have had a similar question or challenge.
BIPOC-ONLY COACHING CALLS
The patriarchy and how we're socialized affects everyone, but the BIPOC community deals with additional layers of racism and socialization. We provide 1 call per month where BIPOC Clutch members can access safe and intimate coaching. Calls are led alternatingly by Kara and a coach of color.
FACEBOOK COMMUNITY (optional)
24/7 access to a Facebook community of like-minded women, who are all committed to evolution, growth, and empowerment and are excited to trade ideas, discuss this work, and help you apply it to your own life.
When I taught this work privately, my group program was a $10,000 investment (true story!). But you get access to all of the incredible coaching and resources inside the Clutch for just $97/month.
Let me summarize: It’s going to be your favorite place on the Internet as soon as you join.
So if I were you, I’d smash that join button now!
What’s it like to be a member of the Clutch?
After a month in the Clutch you’ll start noticing that you just feel…a bit more chill.
After two months in the Clutch you’ll realize it’s been a while since you took sh*t personally.
After three months in the Clutch, your brain starts coaching itself.
And after that? The sky is the limit. And the one thing you know for sure is that the Clutch will be there to help you get wherever you want to go.
As a reminder, here’s EVERYTHING you get inside The Clutch
EXPERT TRAINING & COURSES
LIVE COACHING CALLS EVERY MONTH
The Feminist Mindset Fix
BIPOC-only coaching calls
On-demand expert guidance
The exclusive Clutch Facebook Community
When I taught this work privately, my group program was a $10,000 investment (true story!). But you get access to all of the incredible coaching and resources inside the Clutch for just $97/month.
Are you tempted to join but worried about how you'll find time to work through all these amazing resources?
I am a bystander in this group. I don’t get on the website often, I don’t do daily models, I don’t listen in on calls, and I don’t participate in coaching. I peruse and read others’ posts. I listen to the weekly podcast. That’s. It.
So let me tell you all what happened yesterday. I got walked down to HR and was told they were eliminating my position. After 11 years of putting my all into my job, educating pharmacists, nurses and critical care physicians, I was done. After battling through a COVID ICU for two years straight – I’m disposable. They offered me an 8 week severance and made me turn in my badge on the spot. I have a family with two small girls. I provide the majority of our income.
Let me tell you what also happened yesterday. I didn’t lose my shit. I stood up for myself in that meeting and told them how much of a mistake they are making. I had my own back. I never cried. I came out of there feeling empowered, confident and resourceful. I have never once felt like a victim. They are the ones who lost and this is an opportunity for me to find and work for a company who values their employees, patient quality and patient care.
You don’t have to be a star student in this group to see the effects. Two years ago I would have been crippled with devastation and doom. I would have lived as a victim and not helped myself. I would have had a lack of confidence and felt like an imposter.
Not yesterday!
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As a reminder, here’s EVERYTHING you get inside The Clutch
EXPERT TRAINING & COURSES
LIVE COACHING CALLS EVERY MONTH
The Feminist Mindset Fix
BIPOC-only coaching calls
On-demand expert guidance