How to Coach Yourself
Take Charge of Your Mind When Everything Else Seems Out of Control
“This technique is the most incredible thing I’ve ever learned!
It is honestly mind-blowing.”
– Jessica
If there’s one thing we know for sure, it’s that we can’t control other people or world events.
But that doesn’t stop us from worrying about them, does it?
That’s the thing about the human brain. It wants control more than anything.
And most of us don’t know how to direct our own minds on purpose. We don’t know how to create happiness, safety, or accomplishment using our brains.
So we ruminate about all the things we can’t actually control.
And while we’re doing that, what are we not doing?
Planning. Preparing. Strategizing. Helping.
The more the outside world seems to be spinning out, the more we need to be able to focus within.
Because the bottom line of life is that you will only get as far as your brain can take you.
And you have to take responsibility for that journey yourself.
The truth is, it’s not normal to be able to ground in the middle of a storm.
MOST people do not know how to create the thoughts, feelings, and actions that they want to have.
MOST people go through life feeling completely at the mercy of whatever their brains or their circumstances happen to throw up that day.
But that’s a powerless-feeling way to live your life.
I don’t blame anyone who feels that way. Society teaches us to believe that we are victims to circumstances and to fate, and that other people make the decisions that shape our lives.
Motivational speakers will tell you to be in the driver’s seat of your life, but let’s be real – many of the women I’ve coached don’t even think they are in the passenger seat — they feel like they are in the trunk!
That’s because society teaches women specifically that we’re not in charge of our own lives.
We’re taught that we’re not authorities in our own lives or anything else, and that everyone else knows what is better for us and who we should be. So we chase those external markers of security, happiness, and success endlessly.
We’re taught to underestimate our own mental and emotional power, and instead to outsource our happiness, confidence, and sense of safety to other people or material things.
So is it any wonder we so often feel like we aren’t in control of our own brains – or our own destinies?
Our lack of control over our own brains is damaging in the best of times, but in times of upheaval – personal or political – it’s disastrous.
Because that’s when we need to be in charge of our own destiny most of all.
There is a way to take charge of your own mind and life.
But it doesn’t come from changing your circumstances. At least not at first.
It comes from inside your own brai.
That solution is called SELF-COACHING.
Self-coaching isn’t an energy or a vibe or anything else undefinable or abstract.
It’s a specific step-by-step targeted technique that teaches you how to take control of your own life by taking control of your own brain.
It’s a technique that has changed my life and that I’ve taught to tens of thousands of women who have used it to change theirs.
And now, if you’re ready to change your brain and your life…
I’m going to teach it to you.
Growing up the daughter of a rare book dealer, I read Charles Dickens’ “A Tale of Two Cities” before I read The Babysitters Club books.
I don’t remember much about that book.
But if I were writing a memoir, I’d title it A Tale of Two Women.
And the subtitle would be: “Life Before and After Self-Coaching.”
Before I learned to coach myself?
I was your typical perfectionist over-achiever.
Accomplished on the outside, frantically anxious on the inside.
My days vacillated between moments of happiness and purpose and spirals of anxiety, fear, and shame.
I went to therapy, I did yoga, I got into meditation for a while.
All of it was somewhat helpful, but none of it truly solved the problem.
It wasn’t until I learned how to coach myself and to reprogram my reactions to the world that my life started to change.
I’ll spare you the ins and outs, since this isn’t a 300-page memoir.
Suffice it to say my life looks very different now.
I run a coaching and educational business that has created $25 million in revenue in the last 8 years — which I built with no experience in business and no formal business education.
And I kept that business profitable and my team employed during an economic downturn that decimated small businesses across the country.
I went from being single and childless-by-choice to being a married step-mom.
And I navigated all the highs and lows of falling in love, dealing with childhood trauma, and learning how to parent while also landing a book on the NYT Bestseller list the same year.
But some of my greatest accomplishments are the invisible ones.
The way I persevered through business challenges that would have driven many people to quit.
The way I navigated incredibly difficult personal circumstances that I will never share publicly but that have torn many families apart, and came out with my relationships stronger than ever.
The way I have showed up for myself, my loved ones, and my mission no matter what was happening in my life or in the world.
That is the resilience, the perseverence, and the self-ownership I want every woman to experience.
That’s why I created How to Coach Yourself.
And that’s why I created it now, when our world feels more out of control than ever.
Normally, I only teach my self-coaching method inside my members-only coaching experience, The Feminist Self-Help Society, which is $149 a month.
But I want all of you to know how to coach yourselves, when it feels right now like so much is on the line for all of us.
So for the first time ever, I’m teaching the exact technique I teach inside all of my long-term containers — but I’m teaching it in an affordable, one-day workshop that you can take on its own.
Introducing:
How to Coach Yourself
Take Charge of Your Mind When Everything Else Feels Out of Control
March 2, 10 a.m.–4 p.m. ET
Only $97
This investment includes a limited-time replay of the event for all registrants.
This is such powerful, transformative material that you really can’t afford to miss it. If you really want to invest in yourself, sign up for this live training. It is so inspiring and makes me really focus on the work!
– Daniela
What is it you most want to change in your life?
Maybe you want to stop ruminating and fixating on the news or on your ex or on the future so you can actually live your life in the present moment.
Maybe you want to feel prepared to handle the political uncertainty of this moment and get out of overwhelm and into action.
Maybe you want to find love, make more money, or finally get fit.
Whatever it is, your brain is the key to creating that outcome for yourself.
So here’s what I want to invite you to do.
Pick ONE problem or challenge in your life to think about.
(Yes, right now. I’ll wait.)
Now imagine what that problem or challenge would look like if you felt:
:: empowered to control your life,
:: confident in yourself and your decisions, and
:: certain of how to proceed.
That’s what you’re after.
And that’s what learning to coach yourself will allow you to create.
How to Coach Yourself
Your life can’t change overnight.
And that’s where everything else begins.
March 2
10 a.m. ET–4 p.m. ET
Hosted on Zoom
The investment includes a limited-time replay of the event for all registrants.
(If you can’t afford the registration fee, financial assistance is available! Please email info@redesignyourmind.com and we will help you out.)
March 2
10 a.m. – 4 p.m. ET
$97 one-time investment
This investment includes a replay of the event for all registrants!
Your life can’t change overnight.
But Your brain absolutely can.
And that’s where everything else begins.
HI, I’M KARA LOEWENTHEIL
NYT bestselling author of “Take Back Your Brain,” Creator of The School of New Feminist Thought, and Host of the “UnF*ck Your Brain” podcast (50M downloads and counting).
I’m a Phi Beta Kappa graduate of Yale College and got my J.D. at Harvard Law School (with honors no less). I clerked on a federal appeals court, litigated reproductive rights, and ran a think tank at Columbia Law School before deciding to . . . quit my extremely prestigious law career to become a life coach, of course! Best decision I ever made.
Now I run a seven-figure coaching business created around my signature feminist coaching program, The Feminist Self-Help Society. I teach women how to become anyone they want to be by removing the mental and emotional barriers society has programmed into their brains.
My work has been featured in publications like The New York Times and Glamour Magazine and recommended by podcasts as diverse as “We Can Do Hard Things” with Glennon Doyle to “My Favorite Murder.” I’ve spoken everywhere from Kirkland & Ellis to Google. I pioneered most of the feminist coaching concepts out there, and my work continues to be on the cutting edge of this field. I firmly believe that self-coaching is the next frontier of the feminist revolution.
What will you learn in the How to Coach Yourself Workshop?
:: How to feel calm and in control no matter what is happening around you – bad review at work, child having a grocery-store meltdown, or news headlines that just won’t slow down.
:: A technique you can use anytime on any problem to snap into a more positive mindset and take more productive action.
:: How your brain subconsciously blocks you from accessing more positive and productive thinking, and how to sidestep that block.
:: How to change negative unhelpful thoughts into supportive, empowering beliefs.
This isn’t your average how-to class — it’s an interactive immersion designed to shift your brain in just a few hours.
Workshop Schedule:
10 AM ET – 12 PM ET
:: Understanding Your Socialization (Part 1) – Grasping patriarchy’s impact on your brain
:: Live coaching
12 PM – 1 PM ET
:: Lunch & learn coaching with our team of Society coaches.
1:30 PM ET – 3 PM ET
:: Connecting to your Feminist Future Self, using cognitive exercises to rewire your brain.
:: Live coaching
3 PM – 4 PM ET
:: Overcoming subconscious blocks to growth
:: Live coaching
:: Closing exercises & takeaways