You’re working with a client on people pleasing, or overwhelm, or imposter syndrome.
And it just doesn’t feel like you’re making a ton of progress.
Sure, cognitive change and shifting our self-concepts can take a while.
But one of the reasons it takes a while is that you don’t have the whole picture of what is impacting your client’s mental and emotional state.
That’s because while therapeutic education and training addresses some of the big impacts on our mental health (genetics, environment, childhood experiences), it rarely goes in-depth on one of the biggest influences on how women think about themselves and the world …
It doesn’t teach us all the same things.
In fact, society directs very specific messaging at different people based on their different identities. Men and women, for example, receive different messages about their worth, their value, and who they are supposed to be.
When you do understand it, you are able to make connections faster, reflect your clients’ beliefs and experiences more effectively, and help them create more transformation at a deeper level.
:: How to identify the social messaging that your women clients have received. As we grow up, we learn what to think from everyone and everything around us. Whether the messages are intentional or not, they have the potential to program thoughts into our brains well into adulthood and identifying them is key to growth.
:: How this social messaging is impacting their self-esteem. Society itself has conflicting and contradicting gender norms and value systems, and it’s impossible to live in these systems without feeling like you have conflicting messages and motivations. As a therapist, simply explicitly surfacing, naming, and validating social messaging is a powerful tool for helping your clients see how they are impacted
:: How you can empower your clients more effectively by showing how socialization affects them. As a therapist, being able to identify and articulate socialization and why it exists can be hugely validating for your clients. It explains a deep aspect of their mental and emotional experience that most people have never been able to name, much less explain — and it frees them to explore these contradictions with the understanding that some of these thoughts came from outside of them.
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When was the last time you took objective stock of how you were really feeling about everything in your life — from your body, to your career, finances, relationships, and so much more? This workshop will help you explore each category, so you better understand where you’re already close to your dream, and where you could be putting more or less energy to achieve it.
This is my favorite part of the practice — and you might shock yourself with what you discover you’re craving when you let yourself truly dream.
This is the key to maintaining momentum while creating your dreams. The simple act of believing your dreams are possible on a neurological level will help you maintain momentum, stop beating yourself up when you hit a speed bump, and start to notice the dreamy opportunities that are already right in front of you.
I’m Kara Loewentheil, author of the New York Times & USA Today #1 Bestseller “Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head – and How to Get It Out” host of the internationally top-ranked podcast “UnF*ck Your Brain,” and founder of The School of New Feminist Thought.
Today I’m the leading feminist mindset coach in the world, but I didn’t start out that way. I started out as a stressed-out, double-Ivy League grad (Yale College, Harvard Law) who kept achieving my way to the top of my field but felt besieged with anxiety and low self-worth.
I spent many years in traditional talk therapy, and they were very helpful. But they never quite fully solved my problems. There was always something missing. When I learned tools for concrete cognitive change, and married them with my deep knowledge of feminist theory and history, I finally started to create change in the thought, feeling, and behavior patterns that had seemed intractable for so many years.
I lead the way in bringing feminist coaching to the life coaching and self-development world, but I don’t want to gate-keep it there! After having hundreds of therapists come through my programs and tell me how much my work filled in the gaps of their education and training, I knew it was time to share my work directly with therapists as well.