(Formerly known as The Clutch)
No matter how far you’ve come, there’s always farther to go — and that’s a GOOD thing.
Because if you’re not climbing, you’re just hanging out on a plateau.
Which is fine, if you have nothing else you want to accomplish in the world, or within yourself.
But if you do have another destination in mind, it’s time to get moving.
$147/mo
$97/mo
THIS WEEK ONLY: Unlock a new topic course of your choice and the Feminist Mindset Fix as soon as you join.
You graduated from The Society (a.k.a. The Clutch) because you felt ready to self-coach on your own.
But maybe lately, some old habits are creeping back in.
(How human of you!)
You know theoretically that your circumstances don’t actually dictate your thoughts, but any time you look at current events (in the news or in your life!), your brain starts spinning. Reminding yourself that “it’s all just thoughts” isn’t helping.
You may get a lot done using your productivity tools, but it feels like you’re always running on fumes and never get to stop to fill up the tank.
Or maybe you’re more likely to get paralyzed by overwhelm due to everything you’re juggling, which makes it hard to set future goals or care for yourself — which becomes yet another reason to beat yourself up … and the cycle starts all over.
Even if you’ve created huge changes in your life previously, you may still catch yourself saying: “That’s just the way it is,” and resigning yourself to your circumstances anyway.
Here’s the good news:
As you probably already know deep down: The problem CAN be solved.
But it has to start in your mind.
Because the real problem is that society has taught you to take over-responsibility for everything and everyone around you.
Everyone else’s projects, their work, their emails, their text messages, their meetings, their ideas … not to mention their meals, their laundry, their emotional state, and their holiday shopping, among a million other things.
Which means you’re trying to do a million things for them at once, and failing to do what matters most to you.
And that’s the real problem here.
If you find your self-coaching has stalled a bit lately?
Your engrained sense of over-responsibility is likely the reason.
You’re not alone. It’s a hard habit to break.
But if you come back to The Feminist Self-Help Society?
We can help you get yourself back on track quickly.
“Back on it again!”
I fell off the bandwagon and wanted to get back on it again. After rejoining, my brain is starting to apply the coaching model almost automatically when I think about situations out of my control or when confronted with a difficult situation.
I appreciate the go-at-your-own pace platform and teachings. I also want to shout out how the trainings and website are wonderfully organized and straightforward. It’s super easy to find resources and materials!”
— Alexa
It’s time to feel back in control of your life with less stress, and more impact.
Inside The Society, we’ll help you find your center, re-prioritize, and focus on what you deeply want to create in your life — even when your brain freaks out that the world is on fire.
It might feel impossible to focus and stay calm, or even prioritize joy at this moment in time (been there!), but you hold more cards than you think.
The Society will teach you how to manage your mind, quiet the panic noise, and make big progress on how you want to feel, and what you want to create — without letting anyone else down, either.
You will learn a step-by-step process for re-shaping your mind, and your life, so you can feel balanced and in the driver’s seat no matter what’s happening.
But here’s the tough love you need to hear:
If you are over-functioning for your family and colleagues, managing their emotions (and avoiding your own), over-filling your days with “taking action” that burns you out, or spreading yourself so thin you’re practically translucent just so you feel like you’re doing your part … you’re probably not helping as much as you think.
In The Society, you’ll learn to manage your emotions and your mind again.
So you can focus instead of feeling scattered, set boundaries instead of people-pleasing, prioritize instead of procrastinating … and become the kind of advocate and human you want to be without frying yourself in the process.
In January, the price for The Society goes up to $147/mo
But when you re-enroll right now?
You’ll lock in the $97/mo rate for as long as you’re a member.
And when you re-enroll by November 17 …
… You’ll also instantly unlock a course of your choosing when you enroll.
(That means the Feminist Mindset Fix will be available for you to refresh your core self-coaching skills AND you’ll be able to dive into a new topic course right away!)
Re-enroll now for
$147/mo
$97/mo
As always: There’s no minimum commitment or maximum stay.
Come back and learn what you need, then graduate yourself any time.
Membership fees are going UP in January 2025, but when you join now you get to keep that $97 rate as long as you want.
“I needed a refresh and I jumped in … my mind was blown day 1.”
As a former Clutch member, I knew when I needed a refresh and I jumped back in.
I think the set up and execution of The Society is fabulous; my mind was blown day 1 with the courses — the science behind how our brain works resonated with me powerfully. My anxiety has greatly decreased and [with the tools in The Society] I have a plan for when it ramps up — a way to get to the root of the thoughts and a way to work it through.
– Ann
If you were part of The Clutch or The Feminist Self-Help Society before and you left, it may have been because you didn’t create the changes you wanted.
So here’s what I want to remind you about you and your brain, after working with thousands of women with similar thoughts over the last ten years:
Our brains always want to use the past to predict the future.
So if learning to coach yourself in the past didn’t work out 100% perfectly right away, your brain wants to declare it never will.
But that’s simply not true.
Anything that is powerful enough to change your life can take a few tries to master.
There are so many goals in life that it took me many, many attempts to conquer.
Building a business. Finding a healthy relationship with someone who adores me. Making peace with my body. Changing my health habits.
These goals all took multiple tries, and I’m so glad I gave myself chances to try again until it worked.
You deserve to give yourself the same grace.
Plus, we’ve made some big changes since you’ve been gone — and we suspect you’re going to love them.
Imagine: coming back and trying out new tools and techniques we’ve developed in your absence, so you can level up even faster than your last round.
You can immediately work on whatever you wish: more focus, sleep, less stress, and a lot more mental and emotional energy for the rest of your life.
Imagine: feeling like your to-do list isn’t stressful, your calendar isn’t scary, and you still get more done than anyone else you know.
What could you create in your life with THAT amount of brain-space freed up for … whatever you want to ultimately create?
Imagine: giving even fewer f*cks about what society has told you you have to do and who society has told you you have to be.
Which means actually living your life the way you want to live it — instead of being responsible for everyone else’s.
Maybe you quit your job and move to the French Riviera to raise prize chihuahuas. Or maybe you’re living in the same house in the same suburb with the same family you were before, but everything feels different inside.
Are you ready to re-join the feminist mindset revolution?
We’ve missed you.
And we’d love to have you back.
"What happens when I join The Society?"
1. First: As an alumni, you can unlock ANY course as soon as you enroll
Whatever’s bugging you the most right now — work and time management, money mindset, nervous system activation, body image, eating and exercise habits, social relationships, and romantic relationships, and much more — wherever you’re feeling those old negative loops pop up again, we’ll help you solve ’em.
(If you wish, you can also take The Feminist Mindset Fix again, and refresh yourself on how to change the thoughts that keep you anxious, procrastinating, distracted, or over-loading your schedule and your responsibilities.)
2. You’ll get unlimited personal coaching to help you keep refining your self-coaching practice and changing your thinking to support sticking to it.
Not only does your Society membership these days get you access to a variety of live coaching calls with myself and your Society Coaches each month (along with affinity group coaching calls if you’re a member who’s Black, Indigenous, or a person of color) …
… You also have 24/7 access to our written coaching portal, a vast library of private podcasts and advice you can search whenever you want, and more. So wherever you’re holding yourself responsible for things you can’t control, you can get targeted support.
3. After that? You can tackle any other area of your life where you could use a brain makeover.
You’ll be able to unlock a new course every month, to focus in-depth on over-responsibility and self-responsibility in each area of your life.
And when you feel complete? You graduate yourself, because there’s no minimum commitment to The Society.
Remember, we’re all about empowering YOU to focus on what’s important. So you get to decide.
You know how different this is from therapy.
Or yoga and meditation.
And even other kinds of coaching.
Those all help, somewhat.
But re-learning to let go of the over-responsibility that keeps coming up for you can’t happen unless you get to the source of the problem: the thought patterns that repeat in your mind.
WHAT'S WAITING FOR YOU INSIDE THE SOCIETY:
Signature Courses
You can work on improving any area of your life with our signature courses on topics including work stress, money, friendships, family, relationships, sex, dating, trauma, the nervous system, and more.
Unlimited personal coaching
Along with multiple group coaching calls with myself and your coaching team every month, you also get access to our 24/7 anonymous written coaching forum where you can submit whatever’s troubling you and get expert advice from one of my Feminist Self-Help Society Coaches, guaranteed.
FEMINIST COMMUNITY
Optional for those who enjoy social media communities, full of smart courageous women who love to help each other out with coaching questions, thought change tactics, and new beliefs, you’ll love our private Facebook group.
The price for The Society goes up to $147/mo in 2025.
But when you re-enroll by November 17?
You’ll lock in the $97/mo rate for as long as you’re a member.
AND!
You’ll receive a credit to instantly unlock a new course of your choosing when you enroll. (That means you won’t have to retake the Feminist Mindset Fix — unless you want to!)
Re-enroll now for
$147/mo
$97/mo
As always: There’s no minimum commitment or maximum stay.
Come back and learn what you need, then graduate yourself any time.
Membership fees are going UP in January 2025, but when you join now you get to keep that $97 rate as long as you stay.
“There is so much more great content that I didn’t have [the first time], and a big site refresh!”
“I used to be in The Society back in 2020 (when it was The Clutch), so one thing I was considering when rejoining was if I would get much out of it by rejoining. After joining though, it looks like there is so much more great content that I didn’t have in 2020 and a big site refresh, so I am excited to dive in again.
While I have been introduced to other coaches through work and through Kara’s podcast, The Feminist Self-Help Society is the main coaching group that fits what I am most looking to get out of coaching. I just rejoined but I have already begun to pick up thought work again which is a bonus!”
—Kristen
Still on the fence about joining?
Let me ask you one final question:
If today was your last day on Earth …
… would you regret all the time and energy you wasted trying to manage and control everyone and everything around you that was never your responsibility to begin with?
Generations of women have wasted years of their precious lives holding themselves responsible for everything and everyone around them —
and never getting the chance to do what really matters to them.
BUT WE HAVE A CHANCE TO DO IT DIFFERENTLY.
The Society will teach you how.
You just have to be willing to turn the page and begin.
Re-enroll now for $147/mo
$97/mo
and unlock a course of your choosing instantly.
Raise your hand if you’ve got a question! Yes, you there. Go ahead.
If learning to coach yourself in the past didn’t work out 100% perfectly right away, your brain wants to declare it never will.
But that’s simply not true.
Anything that is powerful enough to change your life can take a few tries to master.
Ultimately the decision is yours.
Do you want to be someone who gives up before she gets what she wants?
Or do you want to be someone who gives herself the chances she needs to succeed?
If there’s ever been a time to bet on yourself, it’s right now.
You’re worth it.
#1: Through November 17, when you join you get a bonus credit to unlock a new content course right away. As soon as you join, you’ll get access to the FMF to refresh your basic self-coaching skills, but you’ll also get a bonus credit for your first month to be able to unlock a course on whatever specific topic is stressing you out right now.
#2: Lock in our $97 monthly rate before the price goes up next year. In January 2025, our monthly membership rate is going up for the first time in eight years. But when you rejoin now, you lock in our current rate of $97 for as long as you stay in The Society.
This is such a common question — and please don’t take this personally, but I think it’s the wrong question to ask. Women are socialized to think that they only deserve things they NEED and also that they NEED to make the right decision all the time. So we’re always trying to figure out if we “need” something to justify a decision.
But it’s not about what you need. It’s about what you WANT.
- Do you WANT to feel less anxious?
- Do you WANT to feel more empowered and confident?
- Do you WANT to have absolute faith in your ability to create ANY outcome you want in your life?
If those are things you want, then that’s what matters. And that’s what The Society will provide.
Nope, you’ll notice small shifts as soon as you start this work.
After two months in The Society, you’ll start noticing that you just feel … a bit more chill.
Your emotions aren’t so much of a rollercoaster. You’re getting more done and starting to feel more confident about your abilities and your worth. You’re a little nicer to yourself. You’re spending less time scrolling Instagram feeling bad about yourself, and more time blowing your own mind with thought work in the The Society.
After four months in The Society, you’ll realize it’s been a while since you took sh*t personally.
Suddenly, without quite knowing how it happened, you just feel less judgmental of yourself and everyone around you. You won’t get freaked out when something unexpected happens, because you know you can handle it. You catch your reflection in the mirror and surprise yourself by thinking, “Damn girl, looking good!” You have more patience with yourself and those around you.
After six months in The Society, your brain starts coaching itself.
You’re naturally and effortlessly thinking more positive, productive, and helpful thoughts, and when you look back at your thoughts from month one, you don’t even recognize some of them anymore. You show up at work as the bad-ass you always knew you could be. You show up in your personal life as the magnetic, loving, and happy woman you always wanted to be. And most importantly you’re excited for the future, because you are so proud of the work you’ve already done that you can’t wait to find out where managing your mind and The Society are going to take you next!
And after that? The sky is the limit. And the one thing you know for sure is that The Society will be there to help you get wherever you want to go.
This is a very normal fear! We’ve all been there.
First, there’s literally no such thing as doing everything or completing it all.
When you go to college you aren’t trying to take ALL the courses, are you? No. You take the ones relevant to your interests, and when you are fully educated in that you graduate. The Society is the same.
More importantly, The Society is designed differently, because I created it in such a way that it can make a big difference in your life even with very little time spent on it. You can spend 5 minutes a day or 5 hours a week, and you’ll see results.
I’m going to let one of The Society’s members tell you how big of a difference The Society can make even when don’t have a lot of time or aren’t the joining type.
KELLY:
I don’t get on the website often, and I don’t participate in coaching. I read others’ posts. I listen to the weekly podcast. That’s. It.
So let me tell you all what happened yesterday. I got walked down to HR and was told they were eliminating my position. They offered me an 8-week severance and made me turn in my badge on the spot. I have a family with two small girls. I provide the majority of our income.
Let me tell you what also happened yesterday. I didn’t lose my shit. I stood up for myself in that meeting and told them how much of a mistake they are making. I had my own back. I never cried. I came out of there feeling empowered, confident and resourceful. I have never once felt like a victim. They are the ones who lost and this is an opportunity for me to find and work for a company who values their employees, patient quality and patient care.
You don’t have to be a star student in this group to see the effects. Two years ago I would have been crippled with devastation and doom. I would have lived as a victim and not helped myself. I would have had a lack of confidence and felt like an imposter.
Not yesterday!
It’s up to you. We have folks who stay for three months, folks who stay for a year, and folks who have been in The Society since the beginning several years ago.
Your first month starts the day you join. After that you’ll be billed monthly. You can cancel at any time, whenever you want to graduate yourself from The Society and feel ready to handle life’s challenges on your own!
Absolutely not. Therapy and The Society work beautifully together. In fact, we have members in The Society who were referred to us by their therapists, because therapists are not trained in socially-programmed anxiety and feminist thought tools! No matter what kind of mental health treatment you are receiving, learning how to close the Brain Gap and resolve your socially-programmed anxiety is going to make your therapy more impactful and help your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors change more quickly.
I’m going to let one of our FSS members take the mic to answer this one.
I just want to say that this stuff really works.
I just started a job in an industry I used to work in but stopped before I joined FSS. I’m sitting here in awe of my own brain.
I used to be SOOO stressed out and anxious and overwhelmed in this industry and completely burned myself out.
Now I’m calmly setting boundaries, organizing tasks, offering encouragement to coworkers, saying ” no,” and thinking thoughts that are just MAGICAL compared to how I used to exist in this space.It’s surreal.
I literally feel like I’m going through life with a different software system. My brain is noticeably different.
– Sunny
Nope! We have members all over the world, and we try to vary the times of our live offerings to make them accessible to different time zones. Plus all coaching calls and other live offerings are recorded and replays are available on demand so you can fit us into your schedule wherever you are.
We also have members of all different ages, from their late teens into their 70s. It’s never too early or too late to start this work.
And we welcome anyone who was or is socialized as a woman, whatever your gender or current gender expression.
That’s not a problem. There’s no loyalty oath in The Society — our whole mission is to teach you how to think for yourself and believe what you truly want to believe! We’ve got members who are ardent feminists, members who are sure they don’t want to call themselves feminists, and members who aren’t sure what they think about it. The Society is not a good fit for you if you believe that women are an inferior gender and should not have equal rights. But other than that, you’re good.
The podcast is an amazing resource, but it was created one episode at a time over many years, so it’s more like a series of advice columns on a million different topics in no particular order. And when you listen to a podcast you can’t ask a question, get feedback on your attempts to implement what you learn, or get coaching when you’re stuck. The Society not only has teaching and tools that aren’t on the podcast, but it is streamlined and organized. The courses have been put together to focus on specific topics with Kara’s most cutting-edge concepts and tools for those topics. In The Society, we’ve got everything you need, including content not on the podcast, and it’s perfectly streamlined and organized for fast, maximum change. Plus you have access to the coaching support you need to keep you moving in the right direction and using everything correctly!