You might have guessed from our style around here: We’re big fans of the Greek classics.
Philosophers, playwrights, we love it all.
But the one Greek fable I’ve never loved is the story of the tortoise and the hare.
Yes, I get it, slow and steady wins the race. it’s a good message. Some of the time.
I focus on this concept a lot when I’m teaching people who are new to setting goals, who have never been coached before, and who don’t have a track record of creating big returns in their lives.
But when we’re talking about those of us who are coachable, who are accomplished, and who are ambitious?
Well … we’re the hares, baby.
And a hare who is focused and well-trained will outrun a turtle in a race any. fucking. day.
But that hare has to know what it’s doing.
It has to be focused. It has to have a game plan. It has to know exactly how to get from the start of the race to the finish.
Which means it needs to have been “trained” by someone who has trained winning hares before.
Set a hare out on its own, and it will get distracted, exhaust itself, or wander off — like Aesop told us it would.
That’s why if you’re a quick-start, if you’re a go-getter, if you’re someone who wants to shoot for the top — private coaching is for you.
Because even if I’m not a huge fan of Aesop, we have to admit that the ancient Greeks knew how to educate great thinkers, doers, and creators.
They created the tutor system, where promising students worked one-on-one with the great philosophers and teachers of their day.
Those relationships might have been a little too … intimate, sometimes … for our modern tastes. 👀
But there’s no denying the incredible social, political, economic and intellectual achievements they created.
That’s why every year I offer private coaching to a few select clients, Greek-tutor style.
(But without the, umm, overly intimate elements for which the Greeks were famous. 😂)
There are two ways to work privately with me.
Both are application only, and five-figure investments.
If that’s the level you’re playing on, keep reading.
(If not, I’ve got something better suited for you — our membership program, The Feminist Self-Help Society!)
Coaching Intensives
These two-day coaching intensives take place in person, either in New York City or in an agreed-upon city of your choosing. (A meeting with your future self in Paris, perhaps?!)*
Over the course of 36 hours we will dive deep into whatever is blocking you and reprogram your brain to create change faster than you ever have before.
:: Stuck in inaction in a business, professional transition, or creative goal?
Our work will get you moving again no matter how long you’ve been treading water.
:: Tired of dead-end relationships, or not being able to find a relationship at all?
Our work will get you dating in a whole new way that actually feels satisfying and produces better results.
:: Mired in emotional distress about something in your past that’s holding you back now?
Our work will help you change the way your brain processes the experience so you can get out of the cycle of recrimination, self-blame, and what-ifs to take back control of your life and future.**
*Coaching intensives that take place anywhere other than NYC may incur additional fees for my travel and accommodations.
**This is not appropriate for clients with untreated PTSD or C-PTSD, but if you have PTSD and/or C-PTSD that is being treated or has been treated by a specialist clinician, a coaching intensive can be a helpful supplement.
How your Intensive will flow:
During a coaching intensive we will alternate periods of intense coaching with time for you to rest, integrate, and reflect so that you can push your capacity for change without exceeding your window of tolerance.
When we push change too fast past our nervous system’s capacity to hold it, it may feel significant and even blissful in the moment — due to stress hormones — but your brain will not retain the transformation.
(This is why even some very high-end and high-profile coaching events you may have attended feel incredible in the moment but do not create lasting change. Pacing is exquisitely important.)
These private coaching intensives are perfect for you if any or all of the following describe you:
:: You prefer to sprint rather than stroll — you do well in deep dives, and when you’re doing your own work you prefer to do a few hours of deep focus rather than work on something methodically in small bits over several weeks.
:: You are a fast thinker and processor — you speak fast and think fast, your thoughts and feelings are close to the surface and fairly accessible to you in real-time.
:: You have a challenging schedule and it’s easier to carve out two days than a half hour on a regular basis once a week.
:: You are better able to focus and absorb in person than on Zoom.
Here’s what a recent private-coaching client sent me two weeks after our intensive:
Things feel a lot different. I’m actually doing things!
The biggest thing that has come from our day is that I can now see how ridiculous my brain has been — telling me that I’m not good enough every time I try and do something. And I was believing it.
I’m just casually ignoring that voice right now. Seeing its lies. And doing the work.
I’m getting better at using my own voice. I was telling myself that I didn’t have a particular voice. But I’m realizing that I do. And that I can do this.
So grateful for our time together!
– Heather M.
In-person Coaching Intensive:
$25,000
The investment includes two coaching sessions, spread out over two mornings, as well as dinner together the night before the first session. Your travel, accommodation, and the rest of your meals are for you to arrange according to your preferences.
1:1 Session Coaching Package
One-to-one coaching is ideal for select clients who want to work deeply and consistently in an on-going manner.
We can meet for a shorter package to solve a targeted problem — a block in your business, a challenge in your career, dissatisfaction in your marriage, problems in your parenting, body image that is ruining your summers and your sex life.
Or we can work together for a year to systematically create your dream life by evaluating and up-leveling every important area you can think of — your work, your relationships, your family, your leisure activities, your health, your relationship with your body, your love life, your confidence, your nervous system regulation, your spiritual/religious life, your community (list is customizable, of course!).
These private coaching packages are perfect for you if any or all of the following describe you:
:: You need some time to warm up and build trust, and prefer to work with one coach on an ongoing basis.
:: You like being able to get support consistently over time and workshop problems as they come up in your life.
:: You prefer to have more time to process when learning or doing emotional work; it sometimes takes you a few days to digest new awareness or change and you like to let things settle before you talk about them or move on to the next topic.
:: You are better able to focus and absorb in short doses with time to reflect and integrate in between.
Here’s what some of my coaching clients have said:
Three-Month Private Coaching Package:
$30,000
Investment includes one 45-minute kick-off call and eight 30-minute coaching calls.
One-Year Private Coaching Package:
$100,000
Investment includes one 45-minute kick-off call and thirty 30-minute coaching calls.
Need more ideas of what we can do together?
Over the course of making $25,000,000 in my business I’ve done it all.
I’ve transitioned my business from maxed out 1:1 coaching to a small, high-end, group program to a membership. I’ve launched an advanced certification, and decided when to close it. I’ve had always-open models, annual launch models, and everything in between.
I’ve made every coaching business transition there is, and I’ll help you map out the practical plan and give you the coaching you need to actually get moving on it.
In 2024 I published a book and landed it at #1 on the USA Today Non-Fiction Bestseller List and on the New York Times Bestseller List. I did this with about 70,000 Instagram followers, even though almost everyone else on the NYT list that week had millions in their social media following.
I created the strategy and oversaw execution for the entire pre-order marketing campaign myself, so I know exactly what it takes to hit the bestseller lists.
I know what you can control and what you can’t, and I’ll help you craft your best shot. I’ll also introduce you to my best under-the-radar contacts in the book marketing world if you want additional support.
Building and managing a team is one of the most challenging things for entrepreneurs.
We will talk through what isn’t working on your team, where you’re having trouble managing effectively, what’s going wrong with your hiring and firing, and create a vision and plan for your dream team.
Our socialization contributes to all of the mental and emotional drama we have around other people in our lives, or around our fears of what other people think of us. This is my jam, baby.
Conflict with your partner? Fear of setting boundaries? Low self-esteem because of body image, or being single, or aging? Parenting anxiety and shame?
Whatever it is, I’ve got you. And you’ll leave with a plan to keep implementing the tools we work on together, because life doesn’t change overnight — but your brain can start to change in a day.
Have a dream you keep procrastinating on starting?
Stuck in a dysfunctional loop in your relationship that you can’t seem to get out of?
Bouncing back and forth on a decision you’ve been trying to make for months, or even years?
Feeling like you don’t know what comes next and you can’t get traction on where to go?
No matter what kind of “stuck” you are, I’ll help you get oriented, get traction, and get moving.
Maybe you have a problem you’d die to solve — or a project you want help planning out — or something else not on this list. Suggest it in your application, and we’ll see if it works!