:: Started refusing to skirt conflict or worry about bringing up sensitive issues (especially politics) and became someone who confidently spoke up about what you want and need and knew how to communicate to get it?
:: Stopped putting your creativity to the side (writing that book, starting that podcast, selling your art, etc.), AND used it to put your much-needed voice out into the world?
:: Became the kind of person who lets yourself make that big, bold, fulfilling career move, and start hitting your goals … right out of the gate?
:: Stopped wishing “someday” you could travel more, and instead actually sold the house and hit the road, with a full year, round-trip ticket to see the world?
It’s not because there aren’t a million websites about how to update your resume out there.
It’s because you don’t identify as someone who can get any job she wants (because patriarchal socialization has told you that’s much easier for men than women).
It’s not because there aren’t a million exercise programs you can screenshot on Instagram.
It’s because you don’t identify as someone who loves to work out (or you don’t want to look “too bulky,” because women are supposed to be slim and trim).
It’s not because you don’t believe strongly in your values and ideas.
It’s because you don’t identify as someone who can speak her truth no matter how anyone else reacts (because women are trained to be accommodating people pleasers).
Our thoughts create our emotions, which drive our actions.
So when we try to just “act differently” without examining what we’ve been conditioned to believe, it never works.
(How many times have you vowed to just DO something differently and then … not … done that?
No shame my friend — I was also like that before I learned how to coach myself.)
Not because your future self needs to become a feminist activist over the next four years (although it’s awesome if she wants to).
But because your future self is the version of you that exists after you’ve started the identity shift you want inside your own mind.
She’s the version of you that has shed the patriarchal programming that keeps you worried about what other people think, giving up too quickly, avoiding risk, fearing shame and failure, and putting your dreams, passions, and goals on the back burner to take care of everyone else forever.
This kind of programming keeps women living far from the edge of what their capacities, talent, and potential would truly allow them to do.
:: Creating an internationally top-ranked podcast, getting a major book deal, orchestrating a huge debut book campaign, and hitting the NYT bestseller list while also running my multi-seven-figure business in the middle of an economic shake-up.
:: Going from anxiety-ridden, dead-end dating and situationships, to being married to a truly committed, equal, smart, handsome, funny, and yes … feminist man.
:: Healing my relationship with food and my body enough to stop binging and purging and build a consistent movement routine.
:: Embracing curveballs I didn’t expect, like becoming a step-parent after being intentionally childless for decades.
:: Managing my mind about my fears of anti-semitism in the first Trump presidency, and going on to be able to teach thousands of women how to find empowerment during those challenging four years. And I’m doing it all over again right now in the second one.
(Forget big-picture politics, we can’t even control if our boss texts us after hours or if our kids fight in the car, no matter how hard we try.)
Women are taught that their greatest worth is in what we can do for others (as partners, mothers, and “nurturers”) — while men are taught their greatest value is in what they can achieve.
Despite the fact women and the feminist movement have come SO far, this conditioning is centuries old, and continues to wreak havoc in our thoughts and brains, no matter how empowered we feel we are.
You still talk yourself down to what feels “realistic.” Especially when the world seems so uncertain and there’s so much doom and gloom around you (and inside your own brain, sometimes!).
You still beat yourself up about being seen as selfish, or overly-ambitious, or undeserving of what you want, or overly privileged for even caring about your own dreams right now. (Don’t see a lot of men being told that, do you?)
The good news is? There’s a way to overcome that socialization and conditioning.
April 19, 2025 @ 10 a.m. ET–4 p.m. ET
Hosted on Zoom. Replay available until April 27.
(If you can’t afford the registration fee, financial assistance is available! Please email info@redesignyourmind.com and we will help you out.)
NYT bestselling author of “Take Back Your Brain,” creator of The School of New Feminist Thought, and Host of the “UnF*ck Your Brain” podcast (50M downloads and counting).
I’m a Phi Beta Kappa graduate of Yale College and got my J.D. at Harvard Law School (with honors no less). I clerked on a federal appeals court, litigated reproductive rights, and ran a think tank at Columbia Law School before deciding to . . . quit my extremely prestigious law career to become a life coach, of course! Best decision I ever made.
Now I run a seven-figure coaching business created around my signature feminist coaching program, The Feminist Self-Help Society. I teach women how to become anyone they want to be by removing the mental and emotional barriers society has programmed into their brains.
My work has been featured in publications like The New York Times and Glamour Magazine and recommended by podcasts as diverse as “We Can Do Hard Things” with Glennon Doyle to “My Favorite Murder.” I’ve spoken everywhere from Kirkland & Ellis to Google. I pioneered most of the feminist coaching concepts out there, and my work continues to be on the cutting edge of this field. I firmly believe that self-coaching is the next frontier of the feminist revolution.
:: How to pick one area in your life or world that you want to see change — mental, emotional, relational, physical, professional, artistic, financial, etc. — and push yourself to think bigger. You’ll learn what to do when your brain tells you that you don’t know what you want, or when your brain tells you that you do know but it’s impossible for you to do it.
:: Methods for spotting the subconscious blocks you have around your goals and ambitions put there by patriarchy (so you can reprogram and ultimately remove them!). You’ll learn how to stay the course and keep going even when those blocks come up.
:: A powerful cognitive practice to access a new level of belief and strategic thinking so you can gain momentum, and blast through obstacles more easily. You’ll learn how to access higher-order thinking that you don’t use day-to-day to find more positive and powerful thoughts to fuel your changes and your life.
:: Deep Diving Into Your Brain: You’ll learn what creates the way you think and how to get awareness of the sneaky sexist messaging that is limiting your dreams and your imagination without you even realizing it.
You’ll also take an inventory of your life right now so that you know where you want to go using the tools you learn in this interactive day.
:: Lunch & learn coaching with our team of Society Coaches.
:: Connecting to your Feminist Future Self.
You’ll learn the core practice I use to create all of the big outcomes in my life.
I’ll also teach you to get around your brain’s tendency towards confusion and fear to access your higher-level thinking and connect to what you truly want and are capable of creating.
I’m not going to let you leave without understanding the subconscious blocks that come up when we try to evolve so that you can strategize on how to overcome them ahead of time. You’ll learn how to spot those blocks and keep them from derailing you.
We’ll also do a closing reflection exercise together, and afterwards I’ll share how you can work with me in a more in-depth way to fully become that Feminist Future Self.
(And if you can’t attend live, we’ll share a replay as well!)
(If you can’t afford the registration fee, financial assistance is available! Please email info@redesignyourmind.com and we will help you out.)