7 questions. 3 minutes. A whole new perspective.
What’s really blocking you from speaking up?
You already suspect you hold back from asking for what you want or telling the truth about how you feel. But did you know that there are three main Speak Up Barriers that prevent women from getting what they want in life?
This free quiz shows you which one is causing you the most trouble, so you can finally ask for the raise, ask for the help, and have that conversation you’ve been rehearsing in the shower.
Ever wish you could just speak up and ask for what you really want?
Or tell the truth about how you really feel?
But instead, you find yourself:
- Agreeing to split the bill evenly, even though you had the salad and everyone else ordered steak and two bottles of wine.
- Putting off asking for a raise or promotion because the thought of bringing it up makes you want to throw up a little.
- Rehearsing the “I need more help with the kids” conversation in the shower for the fortieth time (and still not having it).
- Smiling and saying “it’s totally fine” when a friend was an hour late (again), and then stewing on it the whole drive home.
Staying quiet seems like the safe option.
But only because your brain isn’t showing you the long-term math.
- The raise you don’t ask for costs you actual money.
- The help you don’t ask for costs you actual hours.
- The resentment you feel costs you the very relationships you think you’re protecting.
No single skipped conversation feels expensive. That’s the trick. The bill comes due twenty years later, when your whole life is arranged around what everyone else wants.
Here’s what a decade of coaching 15+ thousand women taught me:
almost every unspoken sentence traces back to one of three patterns.
I call them the Speak Up Barriers.
One keeps you from asking for help, even when you’re barely keeping up.
One keeps you from saying what’s actually bothering you.
And one keeps you from going after the things you want most.
Many women misunderstand why they are holding back (which is why the advice you’ve already tried hasn’t worked).
Seven questions will show your true barrier – and exactly what to do about it.
Hi, I’m Kara Loewentheil.
I’m an Ivy League-educated lawyer turned Master Certified Coach, host of the viral global podcast UnF*ck Your Brain, and the author of the New York Times bestseller “Take Back Your Brain.”
Most people socialized as women have two things in common: they don’t ask for what they want, and they don’t tell the truth about how they feel.
Because most of us were raised to believe that staying agreeable mattered more than telling the truth, and that conditioning runs deep.
But it’s not permanent.
I created this quiz because you can’t change a pattern you can’t see. Seven questions from now, you’ll know exactly which Barrier has been making your decisions for you. After you’ve taken the quiz, you’ll get individualized tips and hacks for changing this pattern directly to your inbox. Your results arrive instantly. No spam, ever.
