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Speak Up!
with New York Times best-selling author and Master Certified Coach Kara Loewentheil
A 10-week live online coaching experience for women who are done being small. Tell the truth about what you want, feel powerful doing it, and advocate for yourself for the rest of your life.
Starting October 5
Fully online program – join from anywhere!
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Join Speak Up!
Go from “why am I like this” to “I’m going to change this” with a group of women determined to stop shrinking and start speaking up for themselves.
Shift Your Beliefs
Change your thoughts and feelings with a three-step framework you’ll apply to your own unique situations now and in the future, with support every step of the way.
Change Your Life
Learn to trust yourself enough to tell the truth about how you feel and ask for what you want, so you can create a life where you’re seen, heard, and get what you want.
There’s a reason it feels impossible to speak up for yourself.
(and it’s not a personal failure, character flaw, or “something wrong with you”)
When I was a child, I had a lot of feelings and opinions — and quickly learned it was a bad thing. I was told I was too picky. Too dramatic. Too sensitive.
Eventually those whispers stopped being an external voice and became my own.
It’s not that important.
I don’t really need it.
It’s too much to ask for. It’s not a big deal.
I tried to outrun that voice, working my way through Yale, Harvard, a federal appellate court clerkship, multiple fellowships, running a think tank, and the stamp of approval from pretty much every institution that was supposed to matter…all without ever taking up too much space.
And yet that voice remained. Too demanding. Too needy. Too much.
That Voice Doesn’t Care About Your Accomplishments
Maybe you’re a doctor, a professor, or a CEO. Maybe you run a team of eighty people – or a household of kids. Maybe your inner voice has spent a lifetime promising you peace if only you lose the weight, get the promotion, find the partner, have the family.
I know, I’ve been there.
- You can run a courtroom, but you cannot tell your mother-in-law she can’t stay for three weeks
- You have the most incredible friends, but you cannot get a man to text you back
- You can run an ultra-marathon but cannot tell your dad he hurt your feelings
- You can raise hell when someone you care about is disrespected, but fail to open your mouth when someone disrespects you
You know you should speak up for yourself, yet you don’t. Maybe even feel like you can’t. And then you wonder what the hell is wrong with you.
Women Are Conditioned To Accommodate Everyone Else First
Early and thoroughly, usually by people who love us. Be nice. Don’t be difficult. Don’t make a scene. We read the room, then adjust ourselves to fit it. And by the time we’re adults, it’s our entire personality.
This is what a sexist culture does to a smart woman’s brain. It doesn’t stop you believing in equality for women. It just makes an exception for you.
This is the most important thing on this page ↓
Saying yes when you mean no once won’t destroy your self-esteem. But a lifetime of swallowing your own desires, needs, dignity, self-respect, and preferences creates a woman who believes she doesn’t matter.
Now Take A Moment And Imagine Your Future Fearless Self.
Same job, same partner, same in-laws. Except you speak up for what you want.
→ You tell her mother-in-law she can stay for a week, or you’re happy to arrange a hotel nearby – but indefinite visits are a thing of the past.
→ You ask for a 10% raise, which compounds into more freedom, more fun, and more opportunities year over year.
→ You don’t need to tell your husband to help you with the dishes because he’s already drying them off (he’s been doing it since you spoke about sharing the household labor more equitably six months ago).
You don’t need a new personality to become her.
I’m willing to bet you’ve tried to speak up for yourself in the past, but it either backfired or was ignored. And that solidified your resolve to just bite your tongue even further.
The reality is, speaking up is an art, and it takes courage to look inside yourself. To identify your true feelings under years of programming, and to build not only the skill to advocate for yourself and ask for what you want, but to do so gracefully, powerfully, and effectively.
You are fully capable of becoming the woman who says what she means and asks for what she wants. You’ve just never been shown the way.
If you’re sitting there like, damn, she just nailed my inner monologue…
Then it’s time to do something about it.
INTRODUCING MY NEW SIGNATURE PROGRAM
Speak Up!
A live coaching program where you’ll identify where you’ve been biting your tongue (and why), prove those reasons wrong in real time, and start speaking up for what you want.
10 weeks starting Oct 5, 2026
Led by Kara Loewentheil
10 weeks starting Oct 5, 2026
Led by Kara Loewentheil
— What People Are Saying About Working With Kara —
Your Teacher is Kara Loewentheil
60M+
Downloads of “UnF*ck Your Brain”
NYT Best-Seller
New York Times Best-Selling Author
Founder
School of New Feminist Thought
Yale & Harvard
Law School Graduate
When I dove into this work, my most ambitious goals were to lose weight and to stop crying at every family event.
But years of therapy coaching trained me to examine my thoughts, the systems that created those thoughts, and then rewire them into new ones.
And along the way, I created a framework for speaking up for myself regardless of how I felt (or how many NO’s I received) that showed me I could create anything I wanted – one ask at a time.
A decade later, I’ve…
- stopped dieting and learned to love my body
- made peace with my family
- found and married the perfect-for-me man
- published a New York Times Bestseller
- started a feminist mindset movement
- created an internationally top-ranking podcast
- learned how to be a parent who doesn’t lose herself in the role
I’ve coached 15,000+ women on how to feel worthy and deserving of asking for what they want – and getting it.
And I want to help you do the same.
Speak Up! is not another checklist, affirmation, breathing exercise, or promise that you will magically be eager to do the hard thing you’ve been avoiding on the other side.
In fact (spoiler alert), you’re going to learn how to do it even when you don’t feel fully confident.
Speak Up! is the bridge between knowing you should speak up for yourself and actually becoming the woman who does
By the time you’ve completed this program…
You’re going to know exactly how to speak up for yourself, have the hard conversations you’ve been avoiding, and go for what you want – proving to your self-doubts, criticisms, and inner dialogue that you are, in fact, worth it.
THE SPEAK UP! FRAMEWORK
You’re going to get familiar with a simple, repeatable framework you’ll be able to apply to every situation you find yourself in — so you can speak up for yourself, name what you want, and actually get it.
1) IDENTIFY
Discover where you’re shrinking.
Identify the needs, feelings, and desires you’ve been silencing. Get clear on what you actually really want, underneath all the noise, programming, and others you’ve put first.
2) PLAN & PREPARE
Map the beliefs that are blocking your action (and how to change them)
Change the thoughts you need to change. Sort out which objections are real and which are old systems that need rewiring.
3) PRACTICE
Take the actions you need to get what you really want.
Speak your true feelings and wants out loud, regardless of the outcome. Build resilience and confidence in real-time, with support, accountability, and guidance along the way.
— The Kind Of Success My Students Have —
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HOW TO JOIN SPEAK UP!
There are two ways to participate in Speak Up!, and both include live calls and cover the same core tools and practices. The difference is how much individual attention you’ll receive.
Both tiers include:
- 16 Live Online Sessions Across Ten Weeks
Live sessions to learn it, and live coaching to do it, with me and my coaches, in real time. - The Replay Vault
Every session, slide deck, and worksheet saved in one place, so you can come back to it whenever you need it. - Weekly Written Assignments
One a week, on paper, about your own life. You’ll work on mapping the moments you shrink and what feelings come up. - A Private Cohort Community
The same women, every week, from October to December, supporting each other through the asks, the wins, the setbacks, and the triumphs. - Your Confident Life Continuation Plan
A post-program assignment for after our time together ends, so the method keeps working when the calls stop.
Plus, I’m throwing in some bonuses…
Bonus
Six Extra Coaching Calls During Your Action Weeks
Valued at $1,500
Weeks six, seven, and nine are where you build the plan and then carry it out. That’s also where the fear shows up, the old scripts kick in, and you’ll want someone in your corner the same day it happens.
On those weeks, you don’t get one call; you get three. Two extra live coaching calls each week, with my coaches, to help you decide what to say, actually say it, and handle whatever comes back. Big action, big support.
Early-Seat Bonus
The Emotional Regulation First-Aid Mini-Course
Valued at $349
Learning to speak up can stir up a lot. This mini-course includes audio lessons and worksheets that will walk you through a three-step process you can use any time you’re feeling anxious or dysregulated, so you can speak up no matter how scary doing so may feel at times. Enroll by September 28, and it’s yours!
Pay-In-Full Bonus
The Rapid Resilience Kit
Valued at $499
Speaking up doesn’t always go the way we want it to. This kit is a mini-course on what to do when you’re met with a no: how to recover, how to figure out what the answer actually means, and how to keep going until you get what you asked for, or something better.
Pay in full, and it’s yours (you can’t get this kit any other way).
The Sprinter Tier includes all of the above PLUS
+ Two 1-on-1 Coaching Calls
Private sessions with my certified coaches on your specific barriers and how to work through them.
+ Two Deep Dive Workshops with me
Small group workshops where we’ll dive directly into what you’re working through, to get you through the other side.
SPEAK UP
Investment Options
The Cost Of Silence
The 10% raise you don’t ask for is $5,000, $15,000, or even $50,000 depending where you’re at in your career. Not asking, this year, costs more than this program.
Five years from now, that number is positively enormous. If this program teaches you how to speak up for yourself even a little bit, you’ve already returned your investment.
(And telling your MIL she can’t drop by unannounced? Absolutely priceless!)
— What My Clients Are Saying —
THE FULL CURRICULUM
PHASE 1: IDENTIFY
Weeks 1–3 · Oct 5 – Oct 25
We start by helping you identify what it is you want. We’ll help you get clear on the things you’ve never asked for, and the conversations you’ve been holding back from. Then we go underneath them. You’ll learn what it actually looks like inside you when you’re not telling the truth, which parts of yourself you’ve been suppressing to keep the peace, and the reasons women silence themselves in the first place.
You’ll have one live teaching call a week, complete a written assignment (including your Suppression Journal), and start building your speak up muscles by making small asks.
PHASE 2: PLAN & PREPARE
Weeks 4–6 · Oct 26 – Nov 15
A belief you’ve held for thirty years feels like a fact, which is exactly why you’ve never questioned it. Here you learn to catch that thought in the act, examine it, and introduce new concepts in steps small enough that your brain and nervous system can keep up.
Not knowing what to say may be your problem. Saying it out loud definitely is. Most of what stops you isn’t the conversation; it’s the feeling you’re expecting to have during it, and this is where you learn to stay with that feeling instead of numbing it, managing it, or waiting for it to pass before you open your mouth.
Plan and prep week closes with three integration calls where you take everything and build it into one plan. The ask you’ve been circling for years, the conversations you’ve been ignoring, what you’re going to say, and the new beliefs that will carry you through the experience.
PHASE 3: PRACTICE
Weeks 7–10 · Nov 16 – Dec 11
You make the ask, have the conversation, speak your want. The raise, the rate, the division of labor, the thing you’ve never said to your mother. Three weeks to plan it, do it, and handle what comes back, with live coaching on either side of the conversation. You’ll get coached before you walk in, so you know exactly what you’re going to say and what you’ll do with the fear when it shows up. And you’ll get coached after you walk out, whether you got a yes, a no, or a “let me think about it.”
This is also where the skill stops being about one conversation. By now you’ve been making small asks and telling the truth about how you feel for weeks, and it’s starting to feel like something you do instead of something you’re working up to. The big conversation is proof. The habit is the point.
Week ten, we look at what actually happened and what you now know about your own brain that you didn’t in October. Then we look forward, because what you want tends to get bigger once you’ve learned you can ask for it.
— What People Are Saying About Working With Kara —
HERE’S EXACTLY WHAT YOU’LL WALK AWAY WITH
→ The ability to say how you feel, what you want, or what you need in the moment.
Not two weeks later, not in the car on the way home, not in a text you drafted four times, never sent and wish you did (but now it’s too late). You’ll identify your real feelings and say them out loud.
→ Proof that you can do it.
You’re going to actually be able to speak up. Ask for something you want. Have the hard conversation you’ve been avoiding for months (or years). Tell the truth about your feelings. And afterwards, you’ll have real evidence that you can actually follow through on doing the thing, regardless of the outcome.
→ A method you’ll use for the rest of your life.
The same framework works on the next thing, and the thing after that. You’ll know what to do the next time you catch yourself going quiet, in five years, without me.
→ The ability to let someone be disappointed in you.
Without folding, over-explaining, or offering three alternatives to soften the no. Their discomfort is allowed to exist, and it stops being yours to manage.
→ A completely different relationship with no.
Because you’ll have heard it before, worked through the feelings that came up, and survived it. That’s where the confidence to speak up really comes from, and it’s the part nobody can hand you in a book.
→ A community of women who also ask for what they want.
The same faces every week from October to December, all of them saying the things they’ve been avoiding, from every walk of life.
→ And the space to want more.
Because once you find out you can actually speak up for what you want, the dreams you have get bigger, better, and bolder.
Speak Up! Is Not For Everyone
YOUR PAYMENT OPTIONS
Choose your tier. Then choose your payment option.
— What Women Say After Working With Kara —
Our Guarantee
Do the program. Show up to the calls, turn in the assignments, and have the hard conversations – and if you get to the end of ten weeks and don’t feel you got your money’s worth, email us within 14 days of the final session, and we’ll make it right.
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Questions? Excellent. I love questions.
What if I ask and the answer is no?
Then you will have learned the actual skill. I know that sounds like a dodge. It isn’t. The women who change are not the ones who get every yes. They are the ones who discover that a no is survivable, and that they can go back out and ask someone else. There is no way to get that without hearing a no at some point. You will also get more yeses than you expect.
How is this different from the Ask For What You Want Challenge?
The Challenge showed you that asking is a real skill. Speak Up! is where you build it: ten weeks of learning the tools and then using them, in real conversations, with live coaching before you walk in and after you walk out. It also goes further than asking. You’ll practice telling the truth about how you feel and having the conversations you’ve been avoiding, which the Challenge didn’t cover at all.
What if I only have trouble speaking up in some contexts or relationships?
This is very normal and common – sometimes we feel powerful in some relationships or roles, and have a harder time speaking up in others where the stakes feel higher or we feel less safe. Speak Up! is a perfect fit either way, because we aren’t going area by area of your life. Instead we are teaching you a meta-skill that works on any area of your life where you need it – now and in the future.
What if speaking up isn't actually safe for me?
For some women, in some situations, speaking up carries real risk. If you are in a relationship or a workplace where honesty could genuinely endanger you, please take that seriously and get support built for it. This program is designed for women whose barrier is fear rather than physical danger.
I'm not sure I can commit to ten weeks over the holidays.
The program runs October 5 to December 11, and sessions are recorded, so a week where life gets in the way is not a catastrophe. However, this program was built specifically to land over the holidays, to give members an opportunity to face challenges that often come up during family events. That said, weeks seven through nine ask you to have real conversations, and there is no way to do those in the replay. Reach out to our team if you have scheduling issues at info@redesignyourmind.com.
$2,499 is kind of a lot of money, isn’t it?
Yes. For some people it is, and I’m not going to pretend otherwise. But consider what silence has already cost you. Women rarely negotiate — in their careers or their personal relationships — and when we do, we ask for less than what we deserve. If you take what you are given, the gap isn’t $2,500. It’s compounding, emotionally and financially, and it has been for years.
If this money would genuinely destabilize you, don’t spend it. Financial stress is a bad place to empower yourself from. But if you can afford it and you’re hunting for a reason not to, notice what that is. If you’re talking yourself out of investing in yourself because you’re not sure you’re worth the return, that’s what we’re here to work on.
Do I need to be in the U.S. to join and/or do I need to be able to attend it all live?
Not at all! We have women from all over the world in our programs. Everything is hosted live online, with replays and asynchronous written coaching support available as well – so you can get what you need no matter where you live or what your schedule is like.
Is this program primarily for career development?
No. Roughly half of the women I work with are here for home or relational aspects. Division of labor, in-laws, what you actually want in bed, the thing you have never said to your mother. The method does not care where you’re blocked, just that you are and you want to speak up.
I've done therapy. How is this different?
Therapy was enormously useful to me, and I would never talk anyone out of it. It is very good at helping you understand where something came from. This program is about what you do on Tuesday at 2 p.m. when your boss asks if you can take on one more thing. Most of the women in my programs have done therapy, many for years. They arrive here because understanding the origin of a pattern turns out not to interrupt the pattern.
THE SPEAK UP! PROMISE
You’ve spent too long being the most accommodating person in every room. You’re easy to work with, easy to live with and easy to plan around. You’ve been passed over or dismissed or heard “oh you won’t mind, will you?” too many times, told to let it go because “it’s not worth it.”
But it is worth it, and so are you.
You can do another year of putting everyone else first, and burying your desires. But the woman you are deep inside is asking to be seen, heard, and prioritized.
I promise that if you do the work as assigned, stare down your belief systems, examine the truths that are holding you back, and take the actions we’ll be guiding you through, you will be able to tell the truth about how you feel and ask for what you want more and more. If you keep practicing them, these skills compound in value for the rest of your life.
Come with me on this journey.
Take up the space you’ve been programmed to shrink from. Ask for what you actually want in life, love, and your career. And finally say your fucking truths out loud.
