I’m diving into a concept I call you are not the reference point. Most of you have probably heard the term, “You are not the center of the universe,” and while this teaching isn’t quite about everything revolving around you, it works alongside it, and I’m showing you how understanding this on a deeper level will change your life.
Due to our socialization, it’s no surprise if you currently look outside of yourself for direction in any sense, whether it’s in big decisions or small daily actions. I’m highlighting just a few ways that women are taught to give up our authority to pretty much anyone else and to never trust our own opinions, and I’m inviting you to try on a new practice of giving yourself permission to break this cycle.
The elections here in the US are coming up very soon and many people are feeling anxious about the potential outcomes. So today, I’m taking this episode to revisit some of my key teachings around how to deal with an uncertain future. And even if the presidential election is not something you’re currently fixated on, the concepts I’m discussing here on the podcast are applicable to any time you’re spinning in anxiety and despair.
One of the things I see when people start to learn about how their thoughts create their reality and the mechanism of thought work is that they believe this framework is tantamount to victim blaming. This usually surfaces in situations where people have experienced trauma in their lives, and have resulting thoughts and emotions that are painful or disruptive to them now.
You might believe that to be resourceful, you need to have all the answers and tools from the outset to solve any issue. This couldn’t be farther from the truth and holding onto this belief is likely leaving you feeling helpless. I see instances of resourcelessness from tiny to big examples, and if you’re unsure of where you lie on the spectrum, I’m highlighting some ways I’ve seen this show up.
o you ever find yourself fixating on something that you thought you’d already resolved? No matter how long you’ve been practicing thought work, you’ve most likely experienced this in some area of your life because it’s definitely an ongoing experience for me. So today, I want to share a concept that has really clicked for me in a new way recently and has given me so much relief.