I’m outlining the concept of anticipatory stress through the example of insomnia today as it’s something I coach on frequently, but you can substitute any other situation in which you’re feeling stressed or worried about something you’re anticipating. Many people make one big mistake that prevents them from being able to work through it, and I’m showing you what that is today.
Do you have insomnia? If so, I can already guess that you spend so much energy dreading the possibility that you’ll wake up at night, that you have trouble even going to sleep. Or you wake up at night to a barrage of “oh god, you should be asleep, now
While past inadequacies and failures can feel like facts of your life, dwelling on them isn’t going to motivate change. Instead, I’m inviting you to see how you’re allowed to believe things outside of what you’ve done in the past, so you can stop limiting your own progress.
Do you define yourself by what you have or haven’t achieved in the past? For example: You had debt in the past, so you think of yourself as someone who’s bad with money You don’t have the relationship of your dreams, so you think you aren’t worthy of love You
I’m diving into a concept I call you are not the reference point. Most of you have probably heard the term, “You are not the center of the universe,” and while this teaching isn’t quite about everything revolving around you, it works alongside it, and I’m showing you how understanding this on a deeper level will change your life.
How often do you look at someone else’s behavior and think: “Well if I were them, I’d do it that differently.” You know what I mean: You see a parent ignore her screaming child and think, “If that were my kid, I would acknowledge their pain and calm them down.”