In the midst of what feels like chaos and frenzy, most of us are seeking some stability and familiarity. Staying focused and productive in some area of your life and feeling connected to other people are two ways of doing this, and I’m offering my recommendations of how you can create productivity and connection reasonably and realistically.
What do you really, really want? No, I’m not talking about wanting to hang out with the Spice Girls. I’m talking about cutting through the noise of what you think you should do, of what you think you need to do so other people will think a certain way about
reading the news constantly and scrolling through social media isn’t doing you any good. While your primitive brain sees it as a way to protect you from danger by identifying what could be a threat, your mental health is deteriorating in the process. Continuing to fixate on your physical health is not going to serve you, and on this episode, I’m outlining why it’s so important to prioritize your mental and emotional health instead.
Too many people go through life believing that feelings just happen and that there is nothing we can do to control them. The best news is that you have absolute control over how you want to feel, and learning how your thoughts create your feelings is crucial to this process. Without thought work, pushing away or burying negative feelings comes naturally, but doing this is actually making it harder for them to pass. So today, I’m sharing a couple of things you’ll find when you allow them to exist.
If you’re familiar with the work I share here, you’ll know that it’s impossible for us to control other people or the world around us. The only thing we have control of is ourselves and our minds. The harder you grip and try to control someone or something, the more it will squirm away from you. The best news here is that you are wrong about what needs to happen for you to feel better, and I’m sharing what you can actually do instead.
Too often, we believe that the thoughts we have are unchangeable, and so we try to control everything outside of us to try to feel better, which is impossible. Instead, what I’m offering you today is a technique called neutral thoughts that will guide you in actively choosing thoughts that serve you.