If I say “performance anxiety” – what do you think about? The word “performance” probably conjures traumatic memories of a middle school production of Annie. But even if you don’t don a wig and go onstage, chances are you perform in your everyday life. Think about it. You are performing
Scarcity is something that shows up for all of us in some area of our lives, and you might notice it in several for you. Time, money, love, your job, the list goes on. It comes up in any context you can think of and hinders us from going after what we truly want. Staying stuck in this cycle of scarcity thinking will keep producing the same unwanted results over and over, so today I’m helping you step out of it.
Does it seem like everyone else is lucky in love, but you’re always the one who is single or dates the wrong guys? Or that there just aren’t any jobs in your field and you won’t ever be able to get paid doing what you love? Or maybe you feel
I’m outlining my beliefs on internalized biases. We all have them, whether we’re conscious of them or not, as we live in a society where people have explicitly or implicitly taught us certain biases. It can be difficult to accept the thoughts we deem to be wrong or ugly that we’ve internalized about ourselves or others, but rejecting them is far from useful.
Do you struggle with your thoughts around your own internalized bias? I often teach how crucial it is to love yourself as you are, flaws and all, before you try to change. Before you can change, really. But it may surprise you to hear that this applies to your thoughts
The concept I’m discussing today is one I briefly mentioned in a previous episode and I received lots of requests to expand on it, so that’s what I’m bringing you this week. The human ecosystem is a concept that I developed early on in my own thought work journey when I was trying to change the behaviors I didn’t like in the people around me – especially my partner at the time – but keep the ones I did. Sound familiar?