We often think we don’t have control over sexual attraction because we assume it’s out of our control. While there is a biological element to attraction, the most important takeaway I want you all to consider from today’s episode is that it’s not all biology and that your thoughts have a huge impact on the sexual dynamic between you and your partner, and your experience of sex overall.
Most of us haven’t done much deep work around our sexuality because we often think there’s a physiological basis to it that precedes our thoughts. I’m here this week to tell you that our thoughts have a huge impact on our experience of sexuality and desire, and today, I’m starting to put the pieces of the puzzle together to help you have a deeper understanding of your own sexual experience.
When we feel defensive, we think that it’s because other people are wrong about us or have made an unfair assessment, but it’s actually the complete opposite. We feel defensive because we fear that what the other person has said or thought – or what we are projecting they think just in our own minds! – is TRUE.
Erika shares her experience of navigating racism and her own journey of finding her voice to speak up and have difficult conversations as a black woman. You’ll hear how learning the coaching tools has impacted her life, and she illustrates the nuances of how she uses thought work to process her experiences, allow her emotions, and take action.
Discover the most productive ways for you to be an ally and to make anti-racism a practice. I’m showing you how to use thought work to start questioning your belief systems. There is no one right way to do this, and creating guilt and shame for yourself never results in transformation.
The last couple of weeks have been very painful and intense for many of us with the murder of George Floyd by the Minneapolis police. I wanted to do this bonus episode to discuss what I think the role of thought work is in moments like this. I also address