Our brains love to be certain because it perceives being wrong as dangerous and it kicks off a primitive reaction. This unconscious process is normal, but when we want to learn to change this process, to allow the discomfort of being challenged, mental flexibility is what allows us to do so.
Most of us have a tendency to get way too hung up in other people’s models. And if you’ve been socialized as a woman, it’s likely you do this in a variety of situations. Whether it’s dating, work, or even with your loved ones, at times, you probably fixate on trying to figure out what the other person is thinking or feeling, or what they mean or intend.
LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS LISTEN ON SPOTIFY DOWNLOAD THE TRANSCRIPT What You’ll Learn From This Episode: Why our evaluation of our own mental or emotional state is an optional thought. What radical self-love and exquisite self-care mean. How radical self-love reaches every area of your life. The 2 ways oppression
There’s a fascinating paradox I’ve discovered through all the coaching I’ve done, and it’s the paradox of overacting versus underacting. This is a topic that is so important to dive into so that you know how to best coach yourself, because the remedies for each are different. Whether you fall into the overacting camp, the underacting camp, or most commonly, you find yourself doing both in different areas of your life, this is something I urge you to identify for yourself.
What are you looking for when you seek closure? Is it an apology, acknowledgment, or maybe a deeper understanding of the other people involved? What I’ve noticed is that when people talk about wanting closure, they’re almost always framing it as something they get from another person. It’s talking to someone who has done wrong by you or someone you’ve wronged, and chickens, this is a lie we tell ourselves.
We first tell ourselves that we don’t even know what we could possibly think instead of our current thoughts, and then we expect a thought we try on once or twice to do all the work for us. However, it is not the thought’s job to convince us of its validity and believability, and on today’s episode, I’m showing you why it’s crucial for you to sell yourself on your thoughts and how to do so.