A lot of us come to thought work with the goal of trying to feel less bad. Learning how to manage our minds helps us feel better, but this practice is also about creating the positive emotions you want to feel on purpose, even if you don’t feel negatively towards anything in particular.
It may (or may not for those of you who have been doing thought work for a while) come as a surprise to learn that pain isn’t just a physical sensation in our body. Our experience of pain is actually mediated in our brains. Now, I am not claiming that pain is all in your head but what I am saying is that your experience of pain and other physical limitations is hugely impacted by your thoughts about it.
There are two ways in which we interact with the world: with judgment or with curiosity. And I would say that, before thought work, we spend about 95% of our time in judgment (of ourselves AND others) and only around 5% in curiosity. Our brains love to be judgy and to connect with others who share our judgments. We form bonds with others based solely on common dislikes or common thoughts. Why is this a problem?
LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS LISTEN ON SPOTIFY DOWNLOAD THE TRANSCRIPT What You’ll Learn From This Episode: The main primer on attachment theory and what it claims to be the main types. The benefit of these types of schematics. The issue I see with identifying too strongly as a certain personality
I’ve been working on my own self-coaching around relationships recently and found myself resisting – drowning in anxiety and negative thoughts. Today, I’m addressing the difference between resisting and allowing your negative emotions, and why your lizard brain can’t quite comprehend the concept of allowing negativity without practice.
It’s been three years since I left my legal job and started my business, and it’s time for an annual review of the lessons I’ve picked up along the way. I’m definitely still learning a lot, so my commitment is always to share the behind the scenes of my own growth with all of you.