There are two ways in which we interact with the world: with judgment or with curiosity. And I would say that, before thought work, we spend about 95% of our time in judgment (of ourselves AND others) and only around 5% in curiosity. Our brains love to be judgy and to connect with others who share our judgments. We form bonds with others based solely on common dislikes or common thoughts. Why is this a problem?
Look to your left. What do you see? I see some flowers in a vase. I have an opinion about those flowers. “Those flowers need to be thrown out” and “Those flowers are dying” and “I shouldn’t keep dying flowers on my desk” are three thoughts that come to mind.
LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS LISTEN ON SPOTIFY DOWNLOAD THE TRANSCRIPT What You’ll Learn From This Episode: The main primer on attachment theory and what it claims to be the main types. The benefit of these types of schematics. The issue I see with identifying too strongly as a certain personality
Attachment styles, MBTI, enneagrams, Gretchen Rubin’s four tendencies, etc…a lot of you who are interested in self-awareness love to use personality tests as tools to learn more about yourselves. It can be comforting to take a quiz and get some degree of validation for why you feel the way you
I’ve been working on my own self-coaching around relationships recently and found myself resisting – drowning in anxiety and negative thoughts. Today, I’m addressing the difference between resisting and allowing your negative emotions, and why your lizard brain can’t quite comprehend the concept of allowing negativity without practice.
Most people are drawn to thought work because they’re experiencing more guilt, shame, anxiety, insecurity, fear, or confusion than they want to have in their lives. But ironically, in order to feel better, you need to embrace the power of feeling worse. Allow me to explain. Today, I’m going to