On this episode, we take another look at the real reason why, when presented with two or more choices, we often get paralyzed, unable to make a decision. This confusion doesn’t even necessarily come from major life choices either: Many of my clients get decision paralysis about where to go for a haircut.
I firmly believe that confusion is the most useless emotion of all. Most of us think that confusion “just happens” to us. We wander into the cloud of confusion and then walk around in circles hoping that eventually the clouds will miraculously part and the sun of certainty will shine down on us.
No matter if you’re on your first date or if you have been married for 20 years, this episode is going to teach you a new framework that will help you stop feeling needy and stop using others as emotional vending machines.
On previous episodes, we talked a lot about becoming aware of our thoughts and understanding how they affect our emotions and produce results in our lives. However, when you’re looking to create change in your life, simply learning self-improvement concepts will not create transformations – insight is not the same as transformation.
Join Vivian and I as I coach her on how to deal with an “emotional terrorist” whom she’s been struggling with for weeks. As an added bonus, if you were wondering what happens when you get coached, you’ll get to hear exactly what that sounds like.
Confirmation bias causes us to see what we want to see, hear what we want to hear, and continue believing our long-held beliefs. Why? Because our brains are always looking for patterns and if you don’t manage your mind on purpose, it will always find more evidence to confirm your negative beliefs.