If we think about the evolutionary theory of shame, to keep members of the tribe in line and safe, it’s not difficult to understand why women especially struggle so much with it in today’s society. Falling outside of a social norm when those social norms send conflicting messages – be sexy, but not too sexy; be confident, but not too confident – can create great mental turmoil.
This week, I want to teach you one of my favorite coaching tools for achieving tremendous results in any part of your life – taking massive action. Join me as I explain how this simple, yet powerful, tool can help you change your relationship with failure, eliminate doubt and fear, and allow you to get exactly what you want.
We use our ideas of personality as a heuristic to understand and categorize the behaviors of ourselves and others. Essentially, our brains use personality theories as a shortcut to filter everything through in order to simplify the process of anticipating the actions of others. This causes us to constantly look to our past to confirm what kind of person we think we, or others, are.
I know the topic of self-love feels a little confrontational for a lot of you, but I want you to stick with me today as I share how it’s possible for you to see all of your best qualities, be compassionate about your shortcomings, and feel amazing about yourself… without becoming a delusional narcissist.
Imagine you’re at the beach and feeling pretty amazing – you love your suit, your hair looks awesome, and your body satisfaction is at an 8. Then, you see a couple of models walking by, trailed by photographers. Suddenly, you don’t feel so great as self-critical thoughts take over and your body satisfaction plummets. Why did the appearance of these other women (who existed while you were feeling great about yourself, you just couldn’t see them) cause you to feel terrible? It’s because of an insidious habit that most of us walk around practicing constantly: compare and despair.
On this episode, I want to dig into the reasons why we have such a poor (pardon the pun) relationship with money and share my personal story of how I shifted my money beliefs through coaching. Join me as I share the most important money mindset shifts that you can implement to become more successful in your business and your career.