This week, you’re hearing a conversation I had with Vikki Louise over on her podcast, Hack Your Time. Vikki and I get into a juicy conversation about our socialization around time and the thoughts and values that shape how we use time, and I’m excited to share a topic I haven’t yet explored on the podcast.
I’m coaching one of our members on something they’re struggling with emotionally, I’m answering questions from listeners just like you, and sharing everything you need to know about what happens when you join the Clutch.
If you feel like there can’t possibly be any more to learn than what I share in the podcast, it’s understandable that you think that way. But the Society is a completely different experience, and in today’s show, I’m giving you a clear glimpse into that environment, so you can see the differences for yourself.
This week’s conversation is one that spans several important topics, from Black girls and decentralized authority to soft living and romance novels. EbonyJanice calls herself the Black girl whisperer whose work is all about centering Black women and girls, and she’s here this week to introduce us to her newest book, All the Black Girls Are Activists: A Fourth Wave Womanist Pursuit of Dreams as Radical Resistance.
An endemic among people socialized as women is using guilt and shame as our main criteria for our decisions. In a world where we believe it’s our duty to make other people happy and equate the emotions of guilt and shame with being a bad person, it’s easy to fall into the trap of living by a preset emotional compass that society has handed you.
When we realize we’re having default thought patterns that we want to change, we have the opportunity to choose the stories we tell about those thoughts. It is not an opportunity for you to turn your thoughts into something that controls you, or even something that you have to get perfect so you can finally be happy.